Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Speaker A: Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott.
[00:00:18] Speaker B: Y' all ready? Let's go.
Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
All right, we are going to dive into a new program and a new offer that I have that is going to be starting November 1st. If you have been around these parts, you will know that I have mostly done one on one coaching. Last year I started a small group. Earlier this year I had talked about doing a membership, but it just didn't feel aligned and I couldn't quite figure out why or what was going on. But I realized it just wasn't the right time. And as I started thinking about the women that I have talked to most recently and the women who want help, they want to work on their emotional eating, weight loss, really healing their relationship with toxic people, truly healing from past relationship trauma, past hurts. And really looking at how do they not keep calling in the same type of person, how do they date differently, how do they find and attract a healthy partner, how do they not push those healthy partners away and also not feel like they are settling? How do they still feel lit up by their own lives, by what they are doing with themselves and they stop turning to food or alcohol or other people to meet their emotional needs.
And so while many people have come and worked with me very successfully one on one, I know that that's not the right fit for everyone.
And one of the pieces that I have been looking at as well is this aspect around community. Because that is one of the things that I feel like we need. It's so helpful to have a sense of community when you are going through these challenges, to know that you are not alone, to start to release the shame, to hear other women and other people talk about their challenges as well. And it's like, oh, they struggle with that too. So do I. We start to normalize these patterns and we stop feeling like we are the only ones. Something is wrong with us because so often we are all going through such similar cycles and patterns and habits. We create very similar results. And what I want to do is help you to heal from diet trauma and relationship trauma so that you can lose weight and be able to actually keep it off with ease, to keep it off for life. And in order to do that, we really need to uncover the cycles and these sabotaging patterns that are impacting your weight, your relationships and at the heart of it, your self worth. We need to interrupt the patterns. We need to decode and understand the message within these so that you can create the life and the body you crave. Because it's not just about food or weight or our body size or shape. It is truly about how we think and feel about ourselves.
I want to help you create a life that lights you the F up. I want you to wake up and feel so lit up and so unstoppable. And yes, we are going to have days where we have normal human emotions. But 80% of the time you feel good, you feel in alignment. You feel like you are living into your purpose and your passion. And all of that mind drama and the constant thinking and obsessing about food now gets put onto other things, other goals, other desires, other hobbies. You learn how to talk nicely to yourself, how to think better thoughts about yourself. I want to teach you how to love your body now. And all the way down the scale. And whether you recently got out of a toxic relationship or a toxic marriage or you're still in the process of it, or Maybe that happened 10 or 15 years ago, if you have not done any work to actually heal it, you will keep repeating the same thing. And that's what I find, is that so many women isolate themselves. They withdraw. They don't trust themselves around men. They don't trust themselves to be able to make good decisions. They don't trust that the men that they will be talking to in the future are emotionally present and capable enough to not take things personally, to not lash out if they break up. It requires a lot of trust and a lot of learning and a lot of growth. It's so normal that we keep getting into dysfunctional and toxic relationships.
And if you don't want to date, if you don't want a partner or a spouse, that's okay. But for so many women, what I see is they do want this. They're just afraid.
They're really afraid of getting into a toxic relationship. They may have even given up hope. They may think that all men are just toxic. All men are just like this. Because that's the type of person, that's the type of man that they've been exposed to in the past.
And that's not true. There are a lot of really good men out there, but you have to be attracted to them and attracted to the positive things about them. And you have to be at a level and vibrating energetically in which you are attracting and calling them in. It is a two Way street. Just like with dysfunctional people, not only are you attracted to them and their dysfunction, you are also attracting them with how you're showing up. These are the same patterns we want to unwind. And at the core of it, the core is this need to expand our emotional capacity because that's why we're turning to food, that's why we're turning to alcohol, that's why we're turning to a man or a dating app or something else. It's because we are not aware of or know how to meet our own emotional needs. We're trying to escape. We might also just be in survival mode. We might be at a point where we're just trying to survive. Now as single parents, pay our own bills, maybe for the first time in your entire life, there are some big scary things that we are doing. And when you have been used to living in survival mode when you started as a kid and you learned how to adapt in that survival mode, and then you got into a marriage where it just re emphasized a lot of those same patterns. You've been in survival mode for decades now, and now coming out of it post divorce, you might still be somewhat in survival mode. And what others might see as lazy or a lack of self discipline or not wanting it bad enough is really just a trauma response.
We need to start looking at it differently. We need to make sure that we have addressed and identified the right problem so that we know how to solve it. Because there are a lot of people running around talking about laziness or time management. And that's not the real issue.
There are deeper issues at work and often it is complex trauma, it is complex ptsd. And it's not just around food and weight loss, because yes, there is trauma there, but it's also around people and relationships. And these are two sides of the same coin. We need to be addressing these both together.
And this is what no other program is going to teach you. I don't know of any other program out there in the world right now that is going to bring and mesh these two concepts together to help you truly break free from a toxic relationship with food and toxic relationships with other people.
I'm going to help you do this in a way that's actually fun, that is enjoyable, where you can truly enjoy your life, really. You can enjoy food, you can enjoy trying new drinks, new wine, new cocktails. But that is no longer the highlight of your day. It's not the primary source of your joy. And I'm going to help you take these bigger concepts, these bigger ideas and distill them down into bite sized, easy to digest, easy to implement methods and strategies so that you can actually take action. Right? Because that's the million dollar question we all have started to recognize. And we know we, okay, I struggle with this. I have this type of trauma or I have this type of coping mechanism.
Now what that's what I'm gonna help you solve is take it from this big looming, overarching thing where you're like, holy crap, what do I even do here? How do we even get started?
I am going to break it down and distill it down into a simple path, a simple way forward.
And we focus on these two aspects, diet, trauma and relationship trauma.
Because when you can heal these two pieces, you will become unstoppable.
And what's at the core of both of them, the thing that ties both of these two things together, is your self concept.
It's how you think and talk to yourself.
It's the self belief, the self trust, the self love, all of those self blanks, all of that is your self concept.
And when we redefine that and we raise the bar on that, that is what makes you unstoppable. That's what helps you create amazing, mind blowing quantum leaping results in your life.
Because you do not have to settle for the status quo anymore. You do not have to settle for survival mode and you don't have to settle for what other people have told you is okay or appropriate or normal after divorce.
Fuck that.
I am not out there trying to just survive anymore. I have spent enough of my life just surviving, just getting by, just barely making it. I am going to teach you how to thrive, how to light yourself up, how to find peace and joy and happiness in your life and your hobbies and who you are, regardless of the other things that you want to change.
This is what we are doing inside the body you crave accelerator.
This is a group program that I'm running with 12 women. We start November 1st and we run through the end of March. This program is designed to help you focus on these core aspects of losing weight in a sustainable way where you can actually keep it off. I'm going to teach you how to break free from emotional eating and binge eating habits, as well as any emotional drinking or binge drinking habits.
And I'm gonna help you to heal the relationship with yourself so that you can break free from toxic relationships with other people. Not just romantic partnerships, but with friends, with family members, with colleagues in the workplace.
Because so often as we are waking up. We realize just how inundated we are with these toxic patterns and toxic people.
I'm gonna help you break free from all of that.
This is going to be a place where we are all learning and growing and quantum leaping. It's a place where there is safety to talk through, emotions. There's safety to bring up the fear and the hesitation to talk about the downsides of losing weight, to really work through the underbelly, the things that we have tried to stuff down. And now it is a weight. And if you let it, that weight will take you to the bottom of the ocean and it will hold you under.
We have got to release ourselves from these weights.
There is a community here now. There's a community of women rising together, rising from the ashes like a motherfucking Phoenix.
That is what we are doing.
We are going to be a light in the darkness. A light for what is possible. A light that you are not done. Your life is not over yet.
God is not yet done working in you and through you and with you and for you.
There is still so much life left. And let's use it. Let's use this one beautiful, amazing life and do something meaningful and impactful with it. And one of the best things and the most important things we have to do is understand and recognize our own trauma and how to heal it and then actually take the steps to do that consistently.
The way this works is there's a training library. There's an online on demand training library. So think about it as like Netflix, but for personal growth, trauma healing, weight loss. We have weekly group coaching calls and then we have a Facebook group to connect with other members. And you also have that space to ask questions and get support in between our calls as well.
This is something I plan to do in the future, but this first round, I'm offering an early bird discount.
So we start November 1st. But if you are like, hell, yeah, I'm in. There are some special bonuses if you sign up by October 26th. Number one, you get special pricing. You can do six monthly payments of $350, or you can pay in full and it's 1,750.
This will be going up to $550 per month or 2,750 paid in full.
So you can save 200amonth and decide, yes, I'm in. Let's go. We also have three group workshops that are designed to help you navigate food, alcohol and relationships, specifically during the holidays. So I'll be hosting those between mid October and the end of December to help you really get clear on what's coming up for you and how to address the things now. Not someday, not when things are perfect, not when everything, quote, settles down, but in the messiness, the busyness, the chaos, and sometimes also the joy and the vibrancy of the holidays. How to handle and how to navigate food and parties and events and cookies and people, the people that we love to spend time with just as much as the people who are dysfunctional that we really don't want to see how to handle those situations. I'm also going to offer one bonus private coaching call to use by the end of November. So that's another bonus. And then there's also going to be two weeks of bonus coaching at the end of October. So even though technically we start November 1st, if you are ready and you dive in and you're like, hell yeah, I'm in, let's go. The last two weeks of October, I'll host group coaching where you can get in and start to get your questions answered, where you can dive in and get going.
This is the best time to get this level of support. It's the best time to have community. It's the best time to be working on your emotional eating and your overeating habit. It's the best time to be thinking about weight loss in a way where it is fun and it works with your lifestyle, where it is no longer something about missing out or never can I ever eat this? Or making it hard and cumbersome. This is where we truly let go of so many of the diet and food rules that hold us back.
This is how we break free from that. And by breaking free from these diet rules that often drive restriction, we are going to now decrease our binging just from changing what we're doing by learning how to let go of those food rules.
But that's going to feel hard. It's going to feel uncomfortable because those food rules are what often create safety. It's what creates a sense of certainty of like, if I follow this rule, then I am more likely to lose weight. And we are so good at sticking to rules. So many of us are recovering perfectionists, recovering people pleasers, and we are really good at figuring out what are the rules. I will play by them. We are very hardcore and somewhat dogmatic when it comes to diet rules, so they can feel a little hard to let go of for many reasons. And it's because of our past trauma, because of our childhood trauma that we cling so tightly to these rules because we want to do it right. We want to get the results. And we are terrified of failing. We are terrified of disappointing ourselves.
And this is where we learn how to break all of those old patterns, all of those old patterns that keep you stuck in survival mode.
This is your opportunity for growth and healing. This is your opportunity to springboard and move forward.
Now, I know some of you listening are probably thinking, wow, this is amazing. But I wasn't really planning on it. I wasn't planning on starting something new. I don't know that I can handle it. I don't know that it's the right time.
It is always the best time to start healing your relationship with food and body. It is always today. Now is always the best time to work on transforming your relationship with yourself to heal from past trauma. Our brain is always going to offer that now is not the right time. This sounds great, but maybe you feel like this is already hard and stressful and chaotic as it is. And if that's the case, that's exactly why you need this. This is not about extra homework, extra busy work. This is not about giving yourself more to do. This is about learning how to take stuff off your plate. It's learning how to focus on the right things that will actually move the needle. It's learning how to address the things that need the work so that you can be fully present, present during the holidays. It's learning how to decrease the food noise naturally without medication so that your brain is not constantly consumed and obsessed and thinking about food and diet and exercise or just going off the rails where food is now a big free for all, saying, eff it, I'll start over next year.
There is a middle ground. We just haven't been given it as an opportunity before.
We don't know that it exists.
And I'm gonna help you find it. I'm gonna help you create it. I'm gonna help you create the best, most amazing holiday season yet.
Regardless of what life looks like on the outside, regardless of where you are in your divorce, post divorce, looking ahead to the future, regardless of how much weight you wanna lose, regardless of how many years you've been emotionally eating or binge eating, regardless of how many dysfunctional relationships you've been in, regardless of how many years it's been since that last relationship that is still plaguing you, that is still haunting you, there's healing available and you get to say yes to yourself.
This is the best time and I am the best coach to bring these two things together for you.
So I'm going to drop some links in the description. You're going to have a link to the sales page where you can get more details, you can read more and you can sign up.
There's also going to be a link in there where you can schedule a free 20 minute consultation. If you'd like to talk to me and ask any questions and make sure that this is the right fit for you. Any of those little hesitations, those little questions, the little fears, the little things that hold us back.
If you want to talk to me one on one and ask, I would love to be there for you with this because what I am doing is unlike anybody else. Other people don't actually address these, the underbelly of it and really get into the thoughtwork and the beliefs and the emotion and how do we even regulate our nervous system now without food, without alcohol. That's what I'm going to teach you how to do.
And I'm going to help you build your self trust and self belief and self concept. There are going to be times where you're going to lean on me and lean on my belief in you, but I'm going to help you build your own. I'm going to help you strengthen that.
But it's time to stop arguing for your limitations. It's time to stop arguing for how you can't, how you're not good enough, how you won't figure this out. It's time to stop arguing for all the critical voices inside your own head. It's time to let those go.
All right, Questions, comments, fears, regrets. Send me a message and I've got something fun planned for October as well. In conjunction with this as this is coming out and being released, I am also going to be doing a listener challenge. So stay tuned. The next episode coming out is going to be all about this challenge and all the fun bonuses and extra swag you can win coming up this month.
All right, have a fabulous day y'. All. Here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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