[00:00:02] Speaker A: Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches, or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden.
[00:00:10] Speaker B: Link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both.
[00:00:15] Speaker A: Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready?
[00:00:19] Speaker B: Let's go.
Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
All right, so today we are going to talk about this concept of giving yourself what you want and why it can feel hard, why it feels hard in weight loss, why it feels hard in relationships, why it can feel hard in life in general.
And so I've tried recording this episode a couple times prior, and the first take I did, I spent over 45 minutes and didn't even get to how it incorporates and, like, plays into weight loss. This is just such a big thing, and this is a really big issue, I think, in particular for narc survivors. If you have been through any type of narcissistic abuse and narcissistic relationship, you have been trained that you have to earn, achieve, and prove that you are good enough or worthy enough to have what you want. You don't just get to have nice things. You have to earn it. You have to achieve it. You have to prove it and not earn it. As in, like, you have to earn the money to buy it. Earn it. As in, you have to earn somebody's love, attention, approval, praise. Typically, it's, I have to earn these emotions from somebody. And so what happens here is that a lot of times, not only do we have to earn it and achieve it, this emotional capacity and these emotions, but we also then get shamed for what we do want.
So if you were ever told, like, what you wanted was materialistic or how dare you want that, or you should want this instead, or maybe it was like what you wanted was different than what your parents wanted for you. They wanted you to be a doctor, a lawyer, an accountant. They wanted you to study this. And really your passion was maybe in theater or in the arts or something totally different.
Maybe you had a spouse where this came up and was an issue. It was like what they wanted for your life, how they wanted you to spend your life was different than what you wanted. And I think this can come up in within even, like, religious communities around this idea of, like, contentment and being happy and satisfied and content with your life and still striving for more. And often these are seen as two competing things. It's why can't you just be happy with what you've got? Why can't you just be content with what you've got. I've heard other people talk about this, of building a business, making money, like, why can't you just be happy with $200,000? And she was like, because I want to make a million.
[00:02:42] Speaker A: Like, why is it wrong to want what I want?
[00:02:45] Speaker B: And so we experience shame so often in the things that we want, the things that we desire, the things that we're willing to learn and to work for.
And yet somebody else doesn't value them the same way. And so they don't think we should be spending the time on this. They don't see it as valuable, and they might see it as taking away. I think this is where I had a lot of issues with my ex, was he didn't see the value in it, but he also saw it as me pursuing this business, me doing something else was taking away from my time spent on the house, my time spent with him.
And rather than seeing how these two things could play together, it was like it was basically just this, no, you're not doing what I want you to do. And that was a problem.
And then that became a problem for me. I eventually became frustrated, was like, no, I get to want the things that I want, and I don't have to earn having to be able to achieve them. I don't have to earn. I don't have to prove myself. I think I spent a lot of time, especially with my business, trying to prove that this was a worthwhile endeavor, trying to prove to him that this was a good idea. But he always saw it as a threat. And so I had to realize, like, he was never going to be on board with this. He was never going to see it. He might say things occasionally that had me thinking, oh, wow, he really supports me. But I don't think he really did. Like, when it came down to it, like, it just. He saw it as a threat. And I totally understand from his standpoint with his childhood trauma, why he would think that way. Totally makes sense. But when you're not willing to work on your childhood wounds and your childhood trauma and you just want to bring it into future relationships, I can't do that. I'm willing to work on my stuff. I need somebody who's going to work on his stuff.
So there. There's many reasons, though, why we have a hard time giving ourselves what we want. And I think the abuse that we've experienced growing up or with a spouse really impacts that. So sometimes it's that we don't know what we do want because we are so used to people pleasing we're so used to putting other people's needs ahead of our own and thinking, I want to make sure they have what they want so we, we will sacrifice what we want. Or instead of looking at how both people can win or we both can be happy.
So often in these dynamics it's if you win at all, it takes away from me. Like they really see it as this zero sum game, you winning at all. And any level threatens their success, threatens their happiness, which feels so backwards and is so incredibly hurtful and creates such a challenge when it is a parent child relationship. But this is so common.
Maybe you were also told, like someone told you what you could and couldn't want. This is what you should want, this is what. Or you were shamed for what you wanted. Why don't you want this over here? And for me, I was shamed for wanting to have a business, for wanting to have something that I was doing out with my spiritual gifts, what I feel like are my gifts, where I've trained and what I'm passionate about. And I was shamed for wanting this instead of wanting to be a full time mom and a like full time babysitter is essentially what it was like. Why don't you just want this? And it's because I don't. Right. And often we feel like we need to validate and justify and have a good enough justification as to why we like or don't like something. This came up for me with trying to find a church with my ex. I would give reasons as to why I thought this was a good church. And even if they were reasons that he had used in the past or he had used at his about a church, when I said it was like it didn't count. Nope, try again. I don't think you really understand. You don't really know what this word means. So nope, this doesn't count here. It's not valid, it's not justifiable. And really it was like it was just, I guess not a church he wanted to go to. And so it just, it became really hard. And so it was like, oh, I can't have what I want. There was a lot of this kind of like underlying frustration around I can't have what I want. And so there came a point too where I was like, why even bother? Why even keep trying? I don't want to keep fighting, I don't want to keep butting heads. I don't want there to be this constant tension. And especially as a kid when you really don't have a Lot of control and you might feel really helpless. It doesn't matter. I have to do this.
We get trained this way.
It creates this dynamic where we're not used to giving ourselves what we want and we are so used to having to work for, earn it, achieve it.
And this is one of the most important pieces is that our narc trained brain has been wired to hyper focus on what's wrong with us, what needs to be fixed, what needs to be changed, why we can't achieve something, why we never will, right? We end up taking their voices, their words and adopting them as our own. And the only thing we really need to quote, fix is learning how to get these voices out of our head and giving yourself permission to want what you want and to give yourself what you want, to have what you want.
And this can feel really uncomfortable and it sounds backwards, it sounds counterintuitive, right? But this can feel really uncomfortable because it is bumping up against a lot of beliefs that we have around our worthiness, how good we are and how we are loved, praised, accepted.
And so this is, and this plays into the larger conversation around the downside of losing weight. Why it can feel hard to pursue weight loss if you are the only one in your family and they're already complaining about their weight. They already see you as, let's say, the smallest or the skinniest or they always compare themselves to you and you just have it so much easier.
But maybe you're overweight and you want to lose weight, but there's this fear of I'm going to get kicked out of the tribe, I'm going to be excluded. And so it's often this very subconscious, I want to give this to myself. But there's also the fear of what's going to happen when I do lose the weight, what's going to happen when I am smaller, thinner. Maybe you see yourself as more attractive and maybe you're also afraid of attracting more dysfunction, more bad relationships, more people who don't treat you well. And so because you don't want to have to deal with that, it's like the weight stays on and it stays as like armor.
But I think the people pleasing aspect is just something that we don't want to overlook either because so often we are used to, I need to do this to make someone else happy. I need to do this to keep the peace, even if it's not what you want to do. So I had a who is traveling and she only wanted to tell a couple people where she was and that she was traveling, that she was going to be in town because she was really going just to see her dad. That's the primary reason was to go and help him with doctor visits and understanding what was going on. It was, it's a short visit to begin with, but it's also like very focused on her dad. And so she didn't want to tell a lot of people and she felt a little guilty about that. And that is very common, right? Because we feel like, I don't want to, I don't want to see all these other people. I don't want to be traveling all over the state trying to find people, trying to meet up with them.
This is what I want. And yet we're afraid that we're going to come off as selfish or we're going to come off as rude or disrespectful or not nice enough. We're not playing the right role.
[00:10:14] Speaker A: And so this might be one of the most challenging aspects of giving yourself what you want. Because not only do you need to figure out what it is and to truly allow yourself to want what you want, but then to give it to yourself often requires you to feel an emotion.
[00:10:31] Speaker B: You have to feel guilty, you have.
[00:10:32] Speaker A: To feel selfish, you have to feel like you're doing it wrong.
You have to feel shame sometimes, or we just notice the shame coming up and it's that willingness to feel that emotion and still take the action. And that is so often what's come up. Because a lot of times it's like, well, I want to lose weight, but I'm also afraid of failing. So can I experience the fear? Can I experience the uncertainty? Can I feel the doubt, allow myself to feel it and still take action towards my bigger dreams, towards my bigger goals?
That is a lot of what holds us back is just a willingness to feel.
And because of our conditioning, because of the way our brain has been trained, we are now over functioning. We are thinking about what other people think of us, how they might be judging us, how they might feel. And we want to try to protect their emotions and we feel responsible for their emotions. So if they have a negative one, it's now my fault. So not only is it my fault and I need to keep them from feeling this negative emotion, but now if they do feel a negative one, even if I tried to do all the right things, it still might come out as okay, well, now I need to fix it. Now I need to please and placate and back down. And so this has come up for me with coaching of like what do I have to be willing to feel in order to invest in a coach, to invest in me, to invest in my bigger dreams, my bigger desires? When there is still some doubt, there is still some fear, you can bring those along. You don't have to be 100% certain, but you do need to be willing to believe new things, willing to allow yourself to explore what's next, willing to allow what might feel hard, which are typically emotions. And like allow yourself to feel that, allow it to feel challenging, allow it to feel new and sometimes uncomfortable and sometimes a little awkward and not making that a problem.
And so this becomes your opportunity to lean into that and not look at the discomfort of certain emotions as being a bad thing, a reason why you shouldn't do it, but really lean into it as this is normal, this is part of the human experience, this is part of me just recognizing and pulling out what are my real thoughts and can I now go to work on addressing those?
Or am I going to let fear keep running my life? Am I going to let fear keep dictating what I'm capable of? Am I going to let that narc in my life from years ago, keep dictating how small I play now today?
Don't let them win.
This becomes your superpower, is your willingness to feel.
And when you want to give yourself something that you want, whether it's a food or a necklace or a vacation or a coaching experience or the gift of weight loss and ending emotional eating, you're going to have to be willing to feel certain emotions.
And often there's going to be a mix. It's going to feel exciting and exhilarating and you'll feel hopeful. And there's also likely going to be a little doubt, a little fear, a little uncertainty.
And this is part of the work that I do with clients in our work together as a coach, as I help you work through and process through the doubt, the fear, the hesitation, the worry. And I help you build your self confidence and your self trust and you become unshakable.
But because of your narc trained brain, we have to do some extra work here and that's okay.
I'm going to bring a lot of belief. I guarantee that I will show up. I can guarantee that if you work the process, you will lose weight, you will end emotional eating.
But I can't make you eat certain foods. I'm not gonna follow you around and smack cookies out of your hand. You would hate me if I did that, right?
What I wanna do is help you pick up and Understand?
Am I hungry? Why do I want this cookie?
Was it planned?
Am I emotionally eating and to sometimes pick up that cookie and enjoy the crap out of it? Because you love cookies and you want to enjoy it and it tastes good and it's on your plan and you're eating it intentionally.
That's what's possible here.
So let's explore more of how this plays into food and your relationship with food and weight loss and emotional eating. Because this is often a key player, even though it's. You don't think we talk about it as much.
[00:15:05] Speaker B: The way that I have seen this play out with food a couple times is at least I can give myself the food that I want, right? It's like when I spend all day not giving myself what I want, not being able to spend my time the way I want to, not having the people in my life, maybe not having the relationship that I want. It's at least at the end of the day, I can give myself what I want with the food. I. I spend so much time saying no to myself, no to my wants, no to my desires, no to things. And I, I can finally stop saying no. At least with the food. That's a relatively easy, relatively inexpensive thing I can do for myself. I can find, at least I can get a yes somewhere in my day, even if it's with cookies or ice cream. And I think it goes back to this. Are you feeling deprived and restricted in your life as a whole?
Because it's not just about the food. It's why often we feel like if I'm restricting the food, it means I have to feel restricted in life.
But so often we already go into it feeling restricted or feeling deprived. And so it's at least I can meet some kind of need with this food. At least I can do something here. And this is often what plays into our emotional eating. And we want to be able to see this because we want to see the different cycles, the different patterns of what plays in. It's not just I'm really stressed. It's not just I feel a lot of shame. It's not just I'm feeling frustrated or irritated at work and so I'm reaching for a snack. We want to start to notice all of the different roles, situations, and then emotions that play into us wanting food. And this is just another angle. This is why sometimes we are emotionally eating is because it's like, finally I can get something that I want.
And then sometimes it can also be really hard to give ourselves what we want and make realistic Plans like realistic eating plans, food plans, not diet plans that are really restrictive. And we're only eating the, quote, healthy foods and only eating the foods that we should be if we're on a diet. Because somehow we've learned and adopted this philosophy that you should not eat cookies if you're trying to lose weight.
But it's never one or two cookies. That's the problem. It's that we eat 12 cookies. And the reason we're eating 12 cookies or 15 is because we are restricting the cookies to begin with. We don't have a healthy relationship with the food. And then when it's like, ah, I screwed up, I'm not perfect, I'll start over tomorrow, because tomorrow I could be perfect tomorrow, I'll make up for it tomorrow, no cookies, then it just becomes a whole free for all.
Keep in mind that restriction is often what's driving the overindulgence.
And when we decrease the restriction, we decrease the overeating, the bingeing, the emotional eating that becomes a big part of it.
But we have to be willing to actually plan. Like if you want to eat a burger and fries, to plan it, to put it on your meal plan.
There are times when I will be in the mood for sushi where I may not have it for a couple of days. It might be a week later, but I'm still giving myself what I want. Regardless of it has this many carbs or it's bad, it's unhealthy, right? We make these blanket statements versus I went to Italian last week, great restaurant, had pasta, there were veggies in it with this pesto sauce. And then I added chicken and it was a great meal. I had enough to split and share with my son and still enough to take home and eat the next day at lunch. I had plenty of food, right? And it was good quality food. Just because it is a certain type or it's what we might consider to be, quote, unhealthy, right? This is where we really need to understand what are all the diet rules? What are all our often misconceptions or ideas about what we should and shouldn't be eating and trying to lose weight?
And this is what I've found is like, it's really hard to moderate when we have such extreme views of food because it leads to the screw it. It's I have to be perfect. I have to follow these very strict rules. And then if I mess up now, I'm not perfect. So it's this default, I guess I'm not going to lose Weight. I guess I'm out of ketosis, so I'm not going to lose weight today, so screw it. Who cares? And it makes a lot of sense. Why keep restricting if we're not gonna lose weight that day or if we're not gonna lose weight that week when I had somebody telling me I couldn't lose weight if I ate off plan twice in a week, and now it's Wednesday, and I haven't stuck to the plan at all that week. Screw it. Why would I even try if at that point I'm just gonna put myself through pain and hardship and struggle and still not lose the weight? And I don't think that was true at all. Had I been willing to test that out, I likely would have lost weight. But I also needed to work on and address my emotional eating and binging. It wasn't so much following the plan that she gave me. I really needed to be able to handle the cravings and the urges. I needed to be, actually needed work on allowing myself to eat carbs and feel okay eating, like, two to three servings of carbs in a day, very intentionally and mindfully, not. Not trying to jump up to six. Because when you have been taught and you've been. I feel like I was very much brainwashed, and I maybe even brainwashed myself to believe, oh, my gosh, I can't eat carbs or I will balloon up. I had this, like, total fear of I can't eat even a bite of carbs, which was silly because then I would eat popcorn and protein bars, and I would. Eventually I would eat in some carbs because I was still exercising. And that's why my body had so many cravings, part of what was driving the binging.
But I just. I had it in my mind that I can't lose weight and eat carbs. And I really had to work on that story and just going from that to, oh, I can eat 6 servings of carbs in a day.
Nope, did not happen. Because the moment I ate one or two servings and then the scale just happened to be up even a pound, I freaked out. And I was like, nope, see, I can't lose weight and eat carbs. And it just solidified this view and this belief.
I really had to learn to let that go. And it started by learning to eat one serving of carbs at lunch and go from there. And then it was one at lunch and then one at dinner. And it was being very mindful and very aware of, okay, just because I can have all the food doesn't mean that I need to eat it all in one meal or in one day. I'm gonna be really mindful. So I remember as I was doing this and working on my emotional eating, I would have a piece of toast with some scrambled eggs with veggies and maybe a little bit of cheese. And that was my breakfast. And I felt very satisfied with that. It really was helpful in getting me more comfortable with, it's okay to eat pasta, it's okay to eat rice, or to eat my sushi and not pick all the rice off.
Giving yourself what you want can sometimes feel hard around food, because we have been trained to think about food in certain ways around it being good or bad, on or off limits. I can or I can't. And when we've had such extreme diets and then diet trauma, it becomes really hard to moderate. It's really hard to eat a little bit. When you think, I've blown it, screw it, now I'm out of ketosis. When we've been in these diets and in these programs where they are very extreme, all or nothing, there is no middle ground. They don't leave any middle ground. And so it's really hard to create that moving forward, trying to do something different.
Give yourself a lot of grace and a lot of compassion here, because this is where you are doing something different. You are doing something new in a different way. And this is why it can feel hard. This is why there might even be some resistance. But what I teach people to do is we're just gonna eat mindfully. We're gonna be more intentional.
We're going to start with very basic, quote, food rules, and I'm going to have you create your own. So one of mine that I noticed was like, I don't eat food straight out of the bag or out of the box. I was eating some chocolate Teddy Grahams the other day, and. And I realized after the fact, of course, but I was like, oh, shoot, I didn't portion them out. I should have put them in a little bowl instead of eating them straight out of the box. And I was like, oh, yeah. Because that is one of my food rules. I don't eat standing up. I sit down. I put my food on a plate in a bowl, right? Like, I'm very intentional with it. It's not just let me eat chips out of a bag. I want to portion them out and at least put them into a bowl or onto a plate or something to where I. It's like, it's helping me to see, okay, I Have this good amount here. I'm not just going to eat mindlessly out of the bag, but this is what takes practice, right? And we have to recognize like, we're not going to be perfect.
The plan here is not that you have to be perfect.
The idea here is that you learn how to create an easier lifestyle for yourself where you and food can calmly, peacefully coexist. And you're not constantly thinking, obsessing about it. You're not thinking about, what can I eat, when can I eat next? That food noise, we want to turn that volume down.
And the way we do it is we have to decrease the restriction and we have to change how we're thinking about food. We have to change this relationship to it.
And so we really want to look at what do you want when it comes to food? How does it fit into your day as a whole?
And then we want to start to look at anytime I want to eat off plan, anytime I want to overeat or I'm. I'm eating more than what my body needs. I want to look at it and I want to see it there so I can solve it. I want to be able to see the cycle, see the pattern, so that I can break it. I have to give myself permission to eat the food that I do really like and work on building my trust in myself and in my body. I don't want to live in a world without chocolate and ice cream and pasta and rice and sushi and cocktails. I like trying new things, but I don't need to drink five cocktails in a night. I'm very happy and satisfied with one to two. Right? And that just becomes a practice.
Brings together both diet trauma and relationship trauma, because it is in part narcissistic abuse and these relationships that impact how we think about things, how we see the all or nothing. Having to prove, having to earn, having to justify.
Oh, that was my other thought here was like, so often we feel like I can't give myself praise, I can't give myself validation. I can't think nice things about me unless I've hit my goal, unless I've lost the weight for the week, unless I've lost my weight for the month. Or maybe it's like I need to hit my big goal. But, like, true progress and true growth is when you can raise and think nice of yourself on a month when you lose three pounds, the same way you would if you lost eight pounds or ten pounds. So often we're like, oh, yeah, if I lose ten pounds this month, like I'm gonna be feeling so good.
And then a month when you lose three, you're down on yourself thinking, this isn't working.
This is a problem I've screwed up. Right? You've got. We've got all of these negative thoughts about ourselves versus recognizing you're still losing weight, like, you're still making progress.
[00:26:23] Speaker A: This is amazing.
[00:26:24] Speaker B: You're on the path. You're on the journey to achieving your goal and being willing to still talk nice to yourself instead of saying, I have to have lost at least six pounds this month in order for me to praise myself or in order for me to feel good about myself. Because the more time we spend feeling good about ourselves and this journey, the easier it gets.
That's really, like, where we make it hard is in all of the negative, shitty thinking, that's what becomes the unnecessary hard, the unnecessary suffering of achieving a goal. And we don't have to do that anymore.
The other way that I've seen this come up with food is it's once I've lost the weight, then I get to eat the foods that I want.
Once I've lost the weight, then I can go out to dinner, then I can go on vacation, then I can eat these foods. And so we almost shoot ourselves in the foot because we're like, okay, well, I can't eat this food and lose weight. Well, once I hit this goal, now I can. Without fully putting it together, of, of course I'm going to regain the weight back, which is why you have to lose weight the way that you're going to live it. And this is what I'm going to help you do. We're going to break through the diet trauma. We're going to break through and break free from the relationship trauma. We need to break the diet rules. And I'm going to help you rebuild your own diet rules. Your own food rules is really what it comes down to so that you actually like them, so that it works for you, so that you can eat the food you love and still lose weight without counting points or calories or macros, without all of this kind of weighing, measuring, intense tracking.
I really want you to feel comfortable in listening to your body. And we want to give it a plan because we don't just want it to be a big free for all in emotional eating, but we have to be able to start giving ourselves what we want. We have to see when we're giving ourselves, like, food at the end of the day as like, a reward for making it as more of an I deserve it versus it being something that we are intentionally planning and truly want for ourselves.
And really like the core wounds underneath, the core narc wounds are what needs to be healed.
And when we can bring all of these pieces together, you're going to create so much more success in your life as a whole, and you're going to create more of what you want in every area of life.
But we have to be able to give ourselves what we want even when other people don't agree with it. There are a lot of people who. And my ex is one of. I. I don't mean to pick on him, but he would look at me, I would be eating ice cream, but I would portion it out, put it in a bowl, and he'd be like, aren't you trying to lose weight? I'd be like, yep.
You'd be like, so you're gonna eat that? Why are you eating ice cream then? And it's because I don't want to live in a world where I can't eat ice cream. And if I am trying to restrict and lose weight without eating ice cream, that's what I have to do in order to maintain my weight. How I lose it is how I have to maintain it. And people aren't gonna understand and people might shame you. But I promise, if you allow yourself to eat ice cream every day, not only are you better at portioning it, you get better at saying, oh, I want seconds. But that's okay. I'm gonna wait until tomorrow. Cause I know I can have more tomorrow. And there are gonna be nights when you don't need it, when you're like, you know what? I'm okay. I'm good. I don't need ice cream tonight. Because it hasn't triggered the scarcity mechanism of it's being taken away. It's now or never. Get it? Well, the gettin's good. There's all kinds of aspects that get triggered within us around food and we have to break that. And people aren't going to get it. And that's okay, right? Like, we can have compassion and have love for them. We don't have to think down on them or talk down to them. But it's okay if other people don't understand.
It's okay if other people want to shame you for eating ice cream or cookies in your weight loss journey when you are learning to do this different because they are just stuck in old patterns, old habits, old ways of doing things.
And that's all right if that works for them, which it typically doesn't.
Because they go through the same extreme all or nothing cycles. They lose the weight just to regain it back again.
And so this is where we have to really build our own self trust and strengthen our self belief and vision of what we know is possible and what we're working on.
And when we are working to heal our own emotional eating and our binge eating habits, the process is likely going to look different than somebody else who's never struggled with their weight, never struggled with dieting, never struggled with food, who has not been on the same journey that you've been on.
This is just your permission to tell them all to kindly piss off and to keep doing what you know you want. So this is your permission to create a realistic plan where you can give yourself the foods that you want so that you're also not emotionally eating and turning to it at the end of the day, exasperated because you're like, oh, finally I can give myself something I want.
And you are learning to retrain how you've been thinking about food and needing to earn praise, earn love, earn something in order to think and talk nicely about yourself.
And if you want some help bridging this gap and bringing all of these pieces together so that you can create the life and body and relationships you really crave so that you can stop attracting and dating narcy types of people and you can really step into healthy, secure, safe relationships with people who love and support you. Your goals, your vision, your lifestyle, the way that you're living, the habits that you have, the way that you want to moderate and breaking out of these binge cycles.
I can help you.
The next best step is to schedule a free consultation and you can find a time on my
[email protected] schedule. I'll make sure the link is in the description as well. But this is your time, this is your opportunity. This is your one precious life. Let's not settle for good enough. Let's not settle for I'll take what I can get. We want to really step into and give ourselves permission to think about what would be so amazing, what would be like so amazing it would blow your mind by the end of the year, by next summer, let's step into that possibility and to play into possibility and into belief. Because I think this is the other area where narc abuse comes into play is so often we're told that's not realistic. We should be more pragmatic, we should be more practical, we should be a realistic. We're told that things are not realistic, they're unachievable, unattainable. And we basically just tell ourselves a story of how we can't and why we can't.
And instead we have to play with belief. We have to play with believing new things and things that maybe you've never done before, you've never achieved before.
And it can feel scary.
But this is where a coach comes in and can help you to navigate these roads and navigate doing something different and doing something for the first time because you can create a life so good it blows your mind.
And if you some help, I got you.
All right. I hope you'll have a fabulous week. Here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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[00:34:33] Speaker B: I'll show you how.
