Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches, or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready? Let's go.
[00:00:24] Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
[00:00:26] All right, this week I have a special invitation for you because starting next week and all throughout the month of June, I'm going to be hosting live workshops because so many women wrestle with this concept and feeling like their metabolism is broken. And this is something I hear often, and I want to just posit a new theory here. What if your metabolism's not broken? What if it's just traumatized?
[00:00:51] We need to identify what's the real problem so that we can have a real solution.
[00:00:56] Because when our metabolism is broken, it's like, well, fuck, what do we do now? When it's internal and we can't see what's actually happening? We don't know what's going on. We just know what used to work isn't working anymore. It's hard to know, what do you do differently? What do you do now? And I really believe that trauma plays such a key role in metabolic function and dysfunction and what we see as that symptom of weight gain, because weight and excess weight is not the problem we need to be solving necessarily. That is just showing us where there is dysfunction in the body. And so the better that we can identify and figure that out, the better we can solve the problem, and the better we can clearly see what is the real solution here. Because just eat less and exercise more is not working. It's not going to cut it. And whether that stopped working in your 30s or your 40s or your 50s, at some point you wake up and you realize like, oh, shit, this is not working. And I felt like, for me, it was very frustrating. Even in my 20s, it seemed to work. Sometimes, like 25 to 30% of the time, the eat less, exercise more seemed to work. I would lose some weight. I would feel better about myself. Honestly, sometimes I would lose a little too much weight, but I could never seem to keep it off. And so not only do we have this emotional strain on thinking about going back to a diet and going back to eating only 800 or a thousand calories or exercising twice a day or running or there are certain diet habits where we've lost weight in the past, but we just mentally, emotionally can't go back there. There's also a biological change to where even if you could go back and do that, it likely wouldn't be as effective. There are a couple of things that we want to address, but at the core and at the foundation, really understanding how trauma drives so much of our metabolic dysfunction, it is not the only cause, it's not the only driver, it is not the one problem, but it is a very core problem because complex, that repetitive, recurring, inescapable trauma, especially at the hands of a family member, a parent, a caregiver when you're young, a spouse or significant other as you age, or once you are married. This type of emotional, verbal, spiritual abuse, especially when we feel helpless, it is driving chronic nervous system activation.
[00:03:18] So being in this constant state of fight or flight is driving so much cortisol dysregulation.
[00:03:25] Because for many of you, you're like me and your trauma starts early on. It's like as far back as you can remember because it's with a parental figure. For some of you, it might be more in your teenage or early 20s. Others, it's going to be more in a marriage, a romantic relationship. For me, mine didn't just stop in childhood, it went into marriage. This is not just, oh, I'm stressed after a busy day, or oh, I'm stressed because it's been a busy week at work. This is constant, intense cortisol dysregulation where it feels really hard to calm yourself down, where your heart is racing and your stomach is tightening and maybe your chest feels like it's straining. And my stomach, often it'll feel like it's churning. I can feel so physically activated. And that is now driving impaired glucose regulation, chronic inflammation. It's driving immune dysregulation. Right? All of these things are just compounding one on top of another.
[00:04:24] Not only are there these metabolic pieces, we need to better understand, like what's happened and why. And it's so that we can better see. Here's how we solve for the weight. If weight is down at the symptom level, it's not what's driving it. Here's how we understand what is driving it and find solutions to heal those pieces.
[00:04:43] So we want to heal our metabolism and there are ways to do it, but we need to also bring in things like hormonal balance. And I think this is why so much of this happens in our 40s and 50s is hormones just plummet. It's like they go out the window. We have all of this dysregulation and it's usually not like they just turn off one day, right? It's like there's a lot of dysregulation, a lot of ups and downs and then everything just falls off the map. And on top of that, now I feel like there's this edge of millennials as we are entering 40.
[00:05:14] Our give a fucks are so low, we just don't have any left. I want to be direct, don't bullshit me. I'm not going to bullshit you. And let's be clear, let's stop dancing around the bush. Let's actually address the things. I'm no longer going to ostrich and stick my head in the sand. I'm also not going to sit by and pretend like somebody's healthy when they are completely dysfunctional and rotten on the inside.
[00:05:37] Authenticity is a core value of mine. And so anything that feels inauthentic is like, oh no, no, no, I cannot handle that. That will drive me frickin crazy. We have all of these different cascading effects that then seem to happen through our 40s and 50s in particular.
[00:05:55] This is where we wanna understand how it all comes together because it's not just about cortisol and high cortisol, it's about it being dysregulated. It's how it blocks the vagus nerve and its anti inflammatory properties. It's how cortisol competes with progesterone production. And low progesterone is also a driver of autoimmune disease, not just dysregulated cortisol and then inflammation. But it's like these all go hand in hand, they all go together. And so the more that we can understand what is the real problem now we can look at here is a comprehensive solution. One that's likely going to involve some type of hormonal testing so that you know, if you need some hormonal adjustment. Two is gonna be lifestyle and habits because we've always got some things that we can uplevel.3 is gonna be any emotional eating or emotional drinking pattern. And then four is gonna be, okay, what does it look like to heal our gut, to heal our hormones, to heal our metabolism and really bringing all of these pieces together.
[00:06:56] And I think sometimes this can feel a bit overwhelming. But when we break it down very simply and we can see how the puzzle can get big, but it's only big because it's like a spider web, it's just all intertwined, but it really can be very simple to solve. And so that's what I'm going to be explaining is how trauma is really such a key driver and it's why it's not just, oh, we hit perimenopause, oh, we hit this arbitrary time in our life and now all of a sudden things are going downhill. It is not that. It is this compounding effect of high and dysregulated cortisol and insulin levels and inflammation in the body.
[00:07:33] For decades, for decades we've been dealing with this. Even if we haven't seen it manifested externally, even if we haven't seen it with weight gain before, even if we haven't seen it with a diagnosis of some other health condition. We have been rocking these issues for years, if not decades. Even though it's not showing up on lab work. It's time that we take our health back into our own hands. Because nobody's coming to save you. There is no knight in shining armor. There is nobody who is going to save you but yourself.
[00:08:03] And so it's time that we get empowered and we get educated and we understand, here's how we can do things and here's how we can do things better. And so I'm going to outline a four part process that is very simple, very doable to get your metabolic health back in line to actually heal. A lot of psychology plays around healing emotionally from trauma, right? It's like, how do we heal our brains, how do we heal? Even like the nervous system to some extent to feel calmer, feel more regulated, but there is deep internal systems that need to be healed. And we can't do that with deep breathing. We can't do that just by meditating.
[00:08:40] There are some other interventions and other things that we'll want to look at to address. If deep breathing or meditation was just going to balance my hormones, I would tell you that, but it's not.
[00:08:51] So let's look at what are some other options. And just because they're options doesn't mean that you need to take them. But let's really look at what is the most effective. Because, y', all, we probably have another 40, 50 plus years left on this beautiful earth. Let's make the most of it. I think that's where so many women are like me and we're like, okay, maybe life has dealt us a shitty hand so far in some ways, but whatever years I got left, let me make the most of it, let me make the best of it. And I don't want to sit around and wrestle with and play in these low vibrational states with other people. It's like, I'm going to level up. And sometimes that's hard because Sometimes it means leaving people behind, sometimes it means leaving friends behind or people in your family because they no longer jive with where you're at right now and with where you're going. It can feel hard, it can feel challenging. But this is our work and this is why I know that trauma creates such dysfunction in the body and this is how we start to heal it. It's been really fascinating getting to explore this more and just seeing how it's all playing together and how it's also impacting our brain, brain inflammation and our brain health as a whole. It's one body, but there are so many internal systems and they are all linked together. The beautiful part is that we don't have to heal everything all at once instantaneously. We can start a little bit at a time.
[00:10:16] So right now I am going to be having my hormones tested and really exploring what is going on with my thyroid. But I also know that the GLPs that I am on right now, it's been really effective at regrowing my eyebrows, regrowing some hair on my arm, at regulating my period.
[00:10:32] It is really helping my body to function better, even though it's not everything.
[00:10:38] I have a lot of lifestyle pieces dialed in. I have a lot of emotional eating that's under control.
[00:10:43] I do have a fair amount of pieces that are where they need to be. I also am sure that I have some hormonal imbalances.
[00:10:51] That's not going to stop me from still seeing progress. And this is where it's the same thing. Like maybe you get some HRT on board first and then you bring on some GLPs or maybe you do a little bit of both together. There's not a right or a wrong here. There's really just figuring out what is the best solution and the best setup for yourself and then finding what habits you can start to implement and start to stack little by little. Because we're still going to go 1% at a time and get 1% better day after day, just a little bit. Because better is always better. This is the mentality that we want to have. So if you'd like to learn more about how your body and your metabolism might just actually be traumatized and what to do about it, how to create better health, how to be able to lose excess weight, how to be able to heal your nervous system and heal your emotional eating habit, as well as redefining and improving your self concept and how you think of yourself, I would love to invite you to this workshop. So every week there are going to be one to two workshops available and they are live, so I'm not doing replays. You got to come live. They might end up being a little bit different for each one, but essentially we're covering the same information in all of them, but it's really just different days and times to try to accommodate different people's schedules. This is really here to help you to be the most successful, truly the best version of yourself.
[00:12:11] Because knowledge is power and the more knowledge we have, the more power we have over our lives, the better decisions that we can make.
[00:12:19] And I want to help give you your options and show you what can have such incredible, profound impact.
[00:12:26] You can register at the link in the description, so I will make sure that is in there and easy to access and I look forward to seeing you on a live call in June.
[00:12:36] All right, y' all have a great week. Here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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