Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches, or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready? Let's go.
[00:00:25] Hey. Hey. Welcome back. We are diving into the topic of commitment today. And I think this is one that can get really missing, misinterpreted. And so I want to offer a new perspective on it as I know this might be a little triggering because often this has been used against us. We have been told that we just don't want it bad enough. We must not be fully committed. We must have not decided. And we just need to decide harder. We just need to commit more. And I think we have this misperception about what commitment actually feels like and when it's actually required, the more that we can understand and better identify what it feels like in our body. Because commitment kind of sucks if we're really honest with ourselves. It feels shitty sometimes. And so really understanding, like, what does commitment actually look like? What does it mean and how to embody it and implement it without relying on willpower, without just trying to force and pressure and push. Because so often after diet trauma and emotional abuse and emotional trauma, relationship trauma, we now get to the point where we're like, I just don't want to. I don't want to have to force myself to do the things that I dread or to do the things that I don't want to do. And so we feel like maybe I'm just not that committed. Maybe I'm just not that committed if I'm self sabotaging or if I don't want to try harder or make it work somehow. And we can think that it's a character flaw within ourselves versus recognizing the trauma that we can have even just around this concept of commitment and how we want to work it in the future. Right? Because this is all about perspective and intentionality. It's not so much about what we're doing, it's why. Just like when it comes to food, I don't care so much about what you're putting in your mouth. I care why you're eating it, why are you turning to it. That is going to tell us way more than simply what. So if we can let go of the what we can now really understand, okay, why am I doing this? And I'm going to give you some tips and some strategies as to how to make that better.
[00:02:16] But we first have to Start with why this can be a little triggering. And it's because there have been NAR people in the past who have told you, you just don't want it bad enough. You just must not be committed. You must. What are you doing? Eating ice cream. What are you doing this weekend? Why aren't you working out in the gym hours every day? And so because we weren't either taking the right action according to them, because we weren't doing what they thought we should be doing, or because maybe we were at a point where we weren't getting the results that we wanted, or maybe we were struggling to implement. It's like, I know to not overeat. I know to stop when I'm satisfied. But that can still be hard to implement when you're in the habit of overeating and emotionally eating. So we can know what to do and still not do it. And this gets wrapped up in. It is. We think we just need more willpower. We think we just need to be more committed. When really it's a toxic train of thinking. And usually it comes from a toxic person.
[00:03:06] There was somebody in your life whose primary source of joy was tearing you down.
[00:03:12] And that's really where a lot of this comes from. That's where so much of our doubt and shame comes from, is from somebody else, somebody extremely dysfunctional, who on purpose knew how to manipulate you to get you to do what they wanted you to so that they could feel better about themselves. And so often it wasn't even about us. It had nothing to do with us. It was all so that they could meet their own needs. And this was all their subconscious programming. I think to some extent, they knew what they were doing, but they saw it as, this is how I get my needs met. This is how we get the right outcome. This is how I get that person to do what they need to do. And when you're used to childhood and growing up with a parent like this or a grandparent, some kind of caregiver, and now you're in a marriage where you have a spouse, especially if you are a female with a male spouse, and he's claiming to be head of the household, or he is the spiritual leader or he is the man, and so he gets to make all the decisions. When you have somebody like that who is really concerned about power and control, it becomes very abusive because that's how they seek their safety. They. It's essentially what it comes down to. It's helpful for us to understand why this can be so triggering so that we can drop our guard a little bit and allow ourselves to be open to this new perspective of like, better understanding. Why has it felt hard? Where have we tried to implement commitment? Or where have we felt like maybe we weren't committed? And then to tell ourselves a new story, to rewrite this story, to rewrite this pattern. A great example of this actually comes from the book Tell Me Lies. Hulu has turned this into a series. And while it's in season three right now, and in the beginning, I liked it. However, now in season three, I am really struggling with it. I don't think I'm gonna watch it anymore. But the book is amazing. The book is really great. And I love that the author did such a great job of explaining Steven, who is the sociopath in this story. He is beyond just high narcissistic traits. Like true sociopath really derives from pleasure and joy, from creating turmoil in other people's lives. He really thrives off of controlling and manipulating other people.
[00:05:18] And that's coming out even more, I think, in season three. And that's part of why I'm like, I. I can't. Like now this is becoming maybe borderline triggering for me. Like, I hate that character. But the author, though, as she's describing him, it's not just about describing him, actually. It's the way that she is able to articulate his thoughts. And I think that is one of the aspects that was so eye opening was the truth and the honesty she was able to bring to how he was thinking in the moment of like, he learned how to manipulate people. He learned especially how to manipulate women and how to get them to do what he wanted them to do. He could meet his own emotional needs. It's a unique book if you've ever had the experience of dating a sociopath. I will do a series on that in February because that was an interesting journey, but really just to better understand how this can get used against you. Okay, so this is where we want to just be really aware of any of the maybe type of combativeness that comes when somebody tells us or we start talking about, like, commitment, how that can trigger shame or guilt or somehow I'm not enough.
[00:06:22] And it's interesting. I remember watching a guy and he was in the social media marketing world and he was talking about his weight loss journey and he made a comment like, I just decided to lose £40. And so I did. And it all came from deciding. All I had to do was just decide, I'm going to lose £40. And then I did. And I remember thinking at the time, because this was about 10 years ago, and I was thinking, that doesn't work for everybody. My first thought was actually probably like, I'm ready to throat punch you. Get off my screen. It's not that easy. And for anybody who's been through any type of trauma, but especially chronic dieting, diet trauma, it is not that simple. It is not just, oh, I decided and then I made it happen. We have so many survival mechanisms, so many coping mechanisms around food and alcohol and different patterns. Our restrict bids, binge regret cycle is in full force, full play, and we simply can't control ourselves around food or alcohol. This has all to do with deciding. This is not about decision making. This is not about commitment. It is these survival patterns, survival mechanisms that are at play. And when we can understand that now, we can solve the right problem. This is what it's all about. It's about solving the right problem, understanding what the problem is. And again, it's not the what, it's why am I reaching for it that is going to give us so much more clarity. And when we can start to solve for the why, that's when we can get somewhere.
[00:07:39] So this is not just about being more committed or you just need to decide harder, right? Like, just know that going in and know that I also hold a little bit of trauma there around that concept too. So if you do as well, that's all right, don't feel bad, don't use that against yourself. I say that so that you also know where I'm coming from and this different perspective that I want to bring.
[00:08:01] So let's talk about what commitment is not because I think we mistakenly think that commitment is this forcing, pressured need for willpower of, oh, if I'm committed, it means that I push, I force, I do it at all cost. And again, after years and years, for most of us, it's decades of trauma. We simply don't want to, we don't want to force ourselves to do things anymore. We don't want to force ourselves to do what feels dreadful. We can't, we literally don't have the willpower to be able to do these 800 calorie diets, diets, these super restrictive diets to just eat less and exercise more. It physically just can't work. And that comes after doing it once or twice. And sometimes at the time it felt successful. We did lose weight, but it was so hard to duplicate and it was so hard to sustain. Because of that, we have to really rework what it means for it to work, how we think of a diet working or a program working, we really have to look at what is the long term sustainability of this. When I lost the baby weight after having my son, it took me about a year to feel like my body composition was back in, like in line and I felt like I was back to my normal. That took about a year. So that was the end of 2021. I have now kept the weight off for four continuous years, four years. Not regaining and losing weight again, but keeping it off consistently eating the food that I love because I have learned how to heal my emotional eating. And when it comes up, it's very infrequent, it's not very much food and I learn from it. And so it's something that normal people will still emotionally eat from time to time. They will still overeat from time to time. But I haven't binged in six years now. The binging has completely stopped. And I used to be a daily binger at times. So I was a binge eater off and on for 14 years. And there were periods where it was literally every single weekday. Weekends, I always felt better. I always felt like I could stay in control. I had slightly different habits. I could go to the gym, I don't know, it just felt easier to do on the weekends. But weekdays I think because of my job and really it was stress, it was shame, it was what I was telling myself, it was the emotional resistance and avoidance that I felt working jobs that I didn't love and that was driving a lot of my binge eating habit. But it's going to look different for everybody. All of that. To say here, though committed, doesn't mean that we just force, pressure, willpower ourselves into doing things because we're also pretty good at that. We stayed in relationships long after we knew it was time to leave. We stayed and put up with far too much for far too long. And now we're at a point where we're like, we don't want to keep putting up with that. We don't want to stay in toxic cycles with people and dysfunctional codependent cycles with people. Just like we don't want to stay in toxic and codependent cycles with food or with alcohol. We don't want to keep turning to them as this emotional release. And again, if we look at the restrict binge regret cycle, the restriction will drive your binge behavior. It drives the binging habit from a physical standpoint and from an emotional, psychological standpoint, that's not working right, which means that we just have to try something different. And when we look at the concept of commitment, we want to just look at it differently. Sometimes we might feel like we can't. I don't have the willpower for it. Sometimes we can feel like a failure, or we feel like there's some internal flaw because we can't go back to doing what maybe we could have or what used to work. A lot of times we can feel guilty, or maybe I'm not committed. Maybe I don't want it bad enough because I'm not willing to do this really hard thing or what feels like this really hard thing. It's like what we expect and think that we need to do in order to create weight loss. A lot of times it is a dreadful plan that we were on before, and short term, we lost weight, but it was really difficult to keep off. This is also where we want to explore what committed feels like in our bodies, because I think committed actually sucks. Like, it feels pretty. Not terrible in our bodies, but it doesn't always feel great. It doesn't always feel amazing. And I think many of us are used to relying on positivity. And when we're feeling good, good. We're relying on optimism. And when we're, like, winning and we're succeeding, then we feel committed. Right? Because we're seeing the scale go down and we're losing inches and we're fitting into smaller clothes and things that we couldn't wear last year are now fitting. Or even when other parts of our lives are going well, like when we feel like we're crushing it in our jobs, in our business, with parenting. Maybe you are rocking it through dating or divorce or really reclaiming your relationships with friends and family. And there can be all of these different pieces where it's like when life seems like it's in order and it's going well, and this sun is shining and the birds are chirping and it's rainbows and unicorns, it's easy to stay committed. But that's not typically when we need commitment, because at that point, we are truly just relying on optimism. We feel positive, we feel optimistic because we see the results. It's what we're making those results mean. And it's easy to foster that sense of commitment. Oh, yeah, of course I can keep going. Of course this is gonna happen. Of course this is inevitable. But real commitment will feel hard. Real commitment comes because it's something that we have to cultivate. We have to con in our bodies. It's something that you're going to have to allow yourself to feel. And it's I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this action, take this action, follow through with this habit. Even when I don't feel like it, that is real commitment. It's the forms of adulting, right? It's I have to pay this bill and I really don't want to, or oh, I have to fill out this form and I really don't want to or tax season is going to come up in a couple months, right?
[00:13:35] You have to do my taxes and I really don't want to. But it's a part of being an adult, right? And because I am committed to, to staying out of jail, right? Because I am committed of following through with certain adult obligations, I'm going to submit and file my taxes. And really it's like there's this deeper belief, this deeper conviction and that's how I think about it, is like we can be committed to the action and committed to the habits when we have this deep conviction about what we're doing. And often we need to feel deeply convicted in our belief that it is possible, that we are creating it and we're creating something sometimes new or something for the first time. And we often don't have evidence to support it. We don't have a lot of evidence that supports this and what we're doing now. But we don't want willpower. We don't wanna have to need willpower because willpower is what's needed to force and to push. That's often where we would get stuck. Because in the past, when things got hard, when, let's say the scale has stayed the same for a month and now you're doing your plan and you're trying to eat when you're hungry and stop when you're satisfied and follow through with some simple basics. That's when we stay committed, when we're not seeing the results right away or when we're not getting that instant gratification. It's in those moments when maybe in the past you would have shamed yourself. I have to, I need to. You fight and white knuckle. It's this clinging onto versus a deep conviction of I'm going to stay the course, I'm going to figure this out, I'm willing to try some new things, I'm open to doing things differently, I'm willing to get coaching or feedback on what's actually happening and what's coming up. This is real commitment. When things are not going our way and we choose to keep going. We choose a different story. We choose an empowering story and something that is fueling us and fueling us with the right action, the right intention, not just I have to do this, otherwise I suck and I'm going to gain weight and I'm going to be a loser forever. So much of it is the intention behind it. So if we look at that and we stay in that vein and understand the why, you can be doing the same thing but with very different intentions. Under the surface, you can be reaching for food, you can be eating.
[00:15:50] But what is driving the eating? Are you eating because you are avoiding emotions because you're looking for a quick hit of dopamine? Or are you eating because you're physically hungry? The action is not the problem. Even though what we're eating is not the problem. It's understanding. Why am I reaching for it? Why am I reaching for food? Why am I reaching for that food in particular?
[00:16:09] You can say no to something from a punitive standpoint out of punishment, because I can't. I'm not allowed. The scale is too high. It's not on my diet. I have to eat less and exercise more. And carbs are evil and they're the devil and I'm gonna gain weight if I eat any carbs. We can have all of this drama about saying no and what we can or can't eat. Or I could say no because I'm actually not hungry. It's not on my plan. I'm going to bed soon. I'm actually just really tired. And it's better that I make tea and go to bed than to eat a dessert or a second dessert. It's these often soft moments, the subtle moments where our commitment can really shine. And that's where we stay committed. It's not from this place of I have to willpower, I have to fight. I have to restrict learning how to say no from a place of self. Love. Love is huge because so often we do need to change our relationship with telling ourselves no more is not always better of saying not today, but maybe tomorrow. And a great example of this is a couple days ago, I was really in the mood for a donut. I really just wanted a cinnamon swirl donut. And it was in the evening, maybe like 7, 7:30 at night. I was already home with my son, didn't want to go out and buy one. So I was like, you know what? I want one, but I don't have one available. I did not plan to eat one. I'm going to plan it for tomorrow. And if I really want one tomorrow, I can go get one. Went and stopped, got a donut, and then ended up with a free coffee, which was delightful. Had my coffee, and then later in the afternoon, I had half of my donut. And it was planned. It was intentional. It was, oh, I really wanted this. And I'm going to be really mindful when I'm eating it, and I'm going to really savor it and enjoy it. It's not that the donut is bad. It's not that it's off limits, but this is how I negotiate for my best interest. This is how I can say, no, not tonight, but if you still really want one tomorrow, you can have it.
[00:17:56] Or even we'll go get one this week. And then at some point this week, you can have a donut whenever you want. Because it's now been planned. It's now this intentional thing. I wasn't fighting myself. I wasn't willpowering myself not to eat the donut even if I had one. It's more of that, why am I saying this? What is the intentionality behind it? And this is really the aspect of commitment that we want to focus on is what is going to drive us and move us forward with the positive action.
[00:18:24] So, like, my commitment to stop binge eating and emotionally eating, it came after overeating. It came after weeks of noticing this overeating pattern. It came after programs and courses and things that didn't work. And it was after I found myself in this place of still doing the action. I didn't want to do that. I was like, no, I'm going to figure this out. That's when my commitment actually got stronger. When things didn't seem to be working in the moment, that's when I doubled down. That's when I was like, I'm going to figure this out come hell or high water. I don't care how long it takes. I don't care how many things that I try that don't work. I was not always an overeater my entire life. I know for sure I will not always be an overeater. I can figure this out. And I really held onto this belief of I could eat carbs in the past. Carbs didn't make me fat. It was the binging that kept me overweight. It was the restriction that kept me binging and the over exercising. It was all of these compounding aspects. It had all to do with the carbs.
[00:19:22] But I could lean on this commitment of, like, all right, I know that I could do this in the past. I know that I could eat carbs as a teen, as a young adult, and not balloon up 500 pounds. I bet I could eat some. Let's start with one portion. One portion at lunch. Really growing and building a healthier relationship with food.
[00:19:41] And the same thing is like this commitment with just stopping, overall, with just recognizing, okay, this is a problem. I keep doing this, and I want to change this habit. I want to change this pattern. And I know that every time that I try something and it doesn't work, I'm actually getting closer to what is going to work. And it's hard to see it when it's like that. And it can be challenging, right? Like when we lose 20 pounds and your body starts to reset, often the next 20 pounds, you might have to change things up a little bit. Sometimes it's a little bit of what you're eating, sometimes it's a little bit of how much you're eating. When we could lose weight but still be overeating in the beginning, that might work. But then we have to clean up some of those habits. We can't be overeating as much. We can't be emotionally eating as much. That's not a problem.
[00:20:21] Let this fuel your commitment, though, and how you think about yourself, how you talk to yourself. That is what's what matters here. That's what's important. But my commitment, it grew stronger after things didn't work. It grew stronger in the harder times. And this is where it's like, we dig into this conviction and this deep knowing of who we are and what is possible and what we're capable of. And it's not about trying to look like anybody else or to be a size 2 or to do something arbitrary. It's knowing what we and our bodies are capable of and what feels good for our bodies. How we can feel good and comfortable and at home, at peace, at ease in our bodies. And it doesn't always mean that we look or weigh however we weighed in high school or in college or whatever kind of arbitrary thing we can use against ourselves.
[00:21:10] It's looking at, okay, this is my body now. Do I love it? Do I feel comfortable and confident in it? And now it's building the self, love and the body love and confidence now and all the way down the scale as you're losing weight, because these are not mutually exclusive either. And this is. It's gonna feel hard for our brain because it feels like two competing aspects. And love myself now and still lose weight or still Want to lose weight. I can love my body now and still want to change parts of it. That is not a problem. Again, we want to understand why what is underneath it. Don't shame yourself with that, don't use that against yourself. We just want to recognize when we find ourselves in these patterns too, that these are often survival patterns. They're coping mechanisms. It's how our brains and our bodies learned to survive. Emotions that we didn't know how to process, situations that we couldn't handle, thoughts and beliefs that really just kept us down. It is a nervous system issue. And when your nervous system has been hijacked by that nar dysfunctional person in your life, or maybe there have been multiple people in your life, of course it's going to seek out pleasure or relaxation or fun or avoidance or something else, some kind of escape with food or alcohol. It does not care about your goals. That is your survival coping mechanism. It's not a food problem, it's a nervous system, an emotional regulation problem. Often it's an under feeling problem. We just, it wasn't safe to feel emotions, it wasn't safe to have emotions, it wasn't safe to express emotions. There's so much about this that goes way deeper than the food. And it's not just about diet trauma and chronic dieting either. A lot of this has to do with the people that we have been in communication with and in relationship with the people that we have spent the bulk of our lives with.
[00:22:54] And now we are going to rewire those neuropathways. We're going to rewire our brain, we're going to rewrite the story. This becomes our work. Not about following a new set of diet rules or new protocol. A new plan doesn't matter if it's January or July.
[00:23:09] What matters is are you solving the right problem and are you coming at it with a trauma informed lens that isn't going to beat yourself up or say that you're just self sabotaging so you're not committed or you don't want it bad enough because that is not it at all.
[00:23:25] So I do think that because of our often unprocessed or unhealed trauma that sometimes we develop these unconscious commitments so we can be kind of unconsciously committed to things like safety, emotional safety, mental safety. We first want to understand what is the unconscious commitment and then we can flip it and find the conscious commitment. So if the unconscious is I'm unconsciously committed to overeating every day as a form of self protection or maybe avoiding negative Thoughts, negative beliefs, negative emotions.
[00:23:57] My new conscious commitment would be I'm committed to understanding why I overeat every day, number one.
[00:24:04] And number two, committed to figuring out the solution that works best for me and my body.
[00:24:09] It's not necessarily that I'm committed to not overeating ever again. It's a process to get there. We first want to be committed to understanding why the pattern happens, why is it at play, what is the survival pattern that's playing out, how is this meeting my emotional needs? And then I want to be committed to finding a solution that's going to work for me, my body, my psychology, honestly, my trauma.
[00:24:34] When we can do that, then we have the formula to set us up for success. That's when we can actually stop overeating. But our commitment is not just to I'm just gonna try harder or never will I eat that again, or I just need to avoid and can never eat this one food. We have to look at what is the actual process here.
[00:24:54] And that is going to get you so much further than just trying to stop binging when that has been your habit or your pattern for years.
[00:25:02] This is why I believe so much in coaching. It's why I believe so much in community. Because I have seen how this has radically transformed my life so freaking much. I can't say enough. I don't know where I would be. I am amazed if it weren't for coaching and coaching communities that I have been a part of over the last 10 years. I guarantee I would be a puddle of goo on the floor. I would be in a mental institution. The amount of trauma and abuse that I have endured is breathtaking in the worst way. It is just horrific.
[00:25:33] And part of it was what I also allowed. That was my work to understand, to recognize why it was so hard to walk away, why I had a hard time cutting people out of my life, why I could see the pattern, maybe even understand the pattern, but I kept circling. I kept doing the same things over and over again.
[00:25:52] This is why it's not just about knowing what to do.
[00:25:56] We need to understand what is the real solution, right? So often there's so much confusion around weight loss and what's required or even emotional eating or binge eating. How do we actually solve it? And so I'm here to bring clarity. That is my goal. I want to create a space where there can be creativity and fun and imagination and play and joy. In your weight loss journey, imagine weight loss and ending an emotional eating in a way that feels fun and joyful.
[00:26:24] I know two concepts that just don't seem to go together.
[00:26:28] But this is the thing, right? Because you can keep seeing the pattern. You can understand the pattern, or you might even understand why it's happening. You can keep circling and keep trying to find new AHAs and new insights, and you can keep hoping that eventually something will click and you'll figure it out and all of a sudden things will be magically different.
[00:26:44] But that's not how it works. Instead, you get to choose to resolve it. And this is where I'm going to invite you into the reclaiming. This is my group coaching program, a high touch program designed to help you lose weight and feel amazing in your body after trauma and abuse. So the reclaiming is the moment that you stop waiting for clarity and you decide to create it. And here's the thing. Clarity comes from taking action. We start with the first step and we just get going, we just get moving. And a great example of this is yesterday I had mapped out a couple of different podcasts in a series that I'm going to do. And then today I was inspired and I had this new idea for this exact episode. And now this is what I'm doing. This is what I'm releasing. I started by taking action. I started implementing, and then I also knew that more clarity is going to come, more things are going to come, but I have to get started. I have to take that first step. And that is what the reclaiming is all about. It's about empowering you to take those first steps and to give you the roadmap and the framework of what that looks like. Not that I'm here to tell you what you can and can't eat. I'm giving you an overarching framework that you can use for the rest of your life, no matter where you are, are. It's simple and it builds your self confidence, your self trust, your self belief, all of the things that have been whittled away by narcissistic abuse.
[00:28:07] So this is where survival ends and self leadership begins. That's what this is all about. It's like rebuilding that self trust, muscle learning, and cultivating that sense of self authority and self leadership where you can trust yourself to make decisions because you don't need more information. You don't need a new diet or a new set of food rules. You don't need to fix yourself. You need a new, healthier relationship with food and alcohol and your body and your past and your thoughts and to reclaim your power.
[00:28:38] The reclaiming is where that shift happens. This is where we do it. Where confusion ends, where protection releases, and where self trust becomes embodied. If you're ready to stop circling the same patterns and finally move forward, the reclaiming is your next step.
[00:28:54] So there are a couple ways and a couple options in which you can join. I have a six month option or a one year option. For many people working through emotional abuse, relationship trauma, food and diet trauma, emotional eating, weight loss, we are tackling some big things, some big topics. For many people, one year is a great amount of time. It gives you enough time to work through all of the ups and downs that we go through through with life on at any given point and it builds your trust that you can handle anything that comes your way.
[00:29:26] But for some people I know six months might be what feels like a good starting point. So for six months in the group it's $3,000 or you can join for a year and it's 4,000. The monthly rate would be 575 for six months if you join the six month option or 400amonth for 12 months. If you want to join for the year, I will drop a link in the description where you can visit the sales page to learn more. You'll also be able to schedule a 20 minute clarity call if you've got any questions, concerns, fears, regrets, you want to talk through it, make sure this is the right fit for you.
[00:29:57] And if you know you need a community, you need a coach, you need somebody who has walked the walk, not just talks the talk. My leadership style is that I go first. I lead by example. But that is my motto is I go first. I'm going to do it first. First I'm going to do this on myself. And I'm never going to tell you to do something that I am not willing to do. This is why I have never done 30 day or 60 day sugar detox. Because I don't want to do that. If you want to get on with your bad self, that's all good. Like I am not here to tell you you can't. But the reality is I'm not going to tell you or recommend that you do something that I have not yet done. And as somebody who has invested tens of thousands of dollars into coaching, into my brain, into my training, I also know the power that comes from putting skin in the game by investing in yourself, by choosing to bet on yourself, to believe in yourself and to believe enough that you do put the money down. So this is a paid group, but this is where you are going to get highly committed People who are willing and wanting and that space of not just seeing themselves succeed at all costs, but it's that rising tide that lifts all boats. So all of this to say, if you're in and you want to get in, send me a message. Jillian llama.com send me an email. You can say I'm in. If you're on my email list, you can reply to any of the messages and just let me know that this is what you want and I'll send you next steps. This is your year. This is your year to reclaim your body, your confidence, your self esteem, your self worth. It's time to redefine who you are and reclaim her because she's in there. We just get to bring her out.
[00:31:35] All right, that was a good one. And yeah, thank you for joining me on this little conversation about commitment. And really listen to those small whispers. Listen to where the negative doubt, the negative self talk, the self doubt, the disbelief where that can creep in when the negative results are coming, when you're taking the action but not seeing the results yet. Really listen for that and question, are you truly in a place of commitment and what does commitment feel like for you? And this is where having a coach and a community provides so much support. Not just from an accountability standpoint of oh, I have to show up in the group or I have to weigh in every week because we don't do that. This is about creating the space where you can truly heal.
[00:32:16] All right, if that's what you want more of, I would love to help you and help guide you on this path. It's incredible like it truly is. It can be hard work at times because we're just not used to it. Anything new is going to feel dangerous, it's going to feel scary, it's going to feel hard and that's okay.
[00:32:31] That's why we're going to do it together.
[00:32:33] All right, here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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