[00:00:02] Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready? Let's go.
[00:00:24] Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
[00:00:26] All right, I have some really fun, exciting news for today and in this episode to talk about the VIP retreat experience and how you can claim your spot. So one of my core beliefs is that life should be fun, right? I talk about this all the time, especially with weight loss, that weight loss should feel doable, sometimes even easy and dare I say, fun. And this is really the philosophy that permeates everything, right? I want you to create a life that lights you up. A life that is fun and enjoyable and that you don't need an escape from. Same thing with work and career and relationships. And I think our healing journey should also be that it should be fun and enjoyable. This is the same attitude that I bring to business and working with clients. This is why I've decided to do something a little different. Throughout the end of the year. I wanted to create an experience around healing and coaching that would be so incredibly meaningful whilst being incredibly fun and enjoyable. Enjoyable to buy and enjoyable on my part to deliver.
[00:01:30] And so I created this year long coaching container for the person who knows that they want deep change and deep transformation.
[00:01:39] They're tired of circling the same patterns over and over again. They're ready to uplevel every part of life beginning with the way that you think and see yourself.
[00:01:50] You really want to feel at peace and ease around food, all food, at all times. So that your precious mental energy and bandwidth can go towards things that are the most important in life. Things that are truly important to you.
[00:02:05] So the way this works is we are going to work together and coach all of 2026 and as a bonus, you will also get the remainder of 2025 for for free. Plus we are going to co create this VIP weekend retreat experience just for you. Over the last three years I noticed a common pattern where clients needed more than just one round of six months of coaching with me to truly heal their relationship with food and body and really break free from toxic cycles of dieting, dating and really heal from the narcissistic abuse that you've experienced. And so this summer I started offering year long coaching packages to ensure that you didn't just lose weight, but that you created a whole new self concept that you became the person who could keep the weight off consistently with ease. You became the person who could trust yourself, listen and hear your intuition and then follow through with it. Who could manage and regulate her nervous system and feel really confident in making decisions even when they are hard, when we know that it's the right thing to do, it's the right next step. Even if it doesn't feel amazing in our bodies, even when it actually feels kind of terrible in our bodies.
[00:03:18] And this is what went into my thoughts and planning for this container, specifically going back to my mission to make this experience fun and enjoyable. Because we all know that growth can sometimes also be painful. Sometimes healing can be a little painful. I knew that including a VIP retreat would accelerate your growth and embodiment of our work together.
[00:03:41] I am 100% committed to your growth, your healing and transformation. And I also want to give you a winning the lottery experience.
[00:03:49] I want you to feel like, oh my gosh, I'm so excited. This sounds so fun. I've been waiting for her to make an offer like this. It's about damn time, right? And I feel it. When we are excited to buy things, when we are excited to invest in ourselves. And sometimes there's still a little bit of fear, sometimes it's still a little scary.
[00:04:08] But when you are ready to really go all in on yourself, it's like there's this willingness, right? It doesn't mean that it's the perfect time or we're a hundred percent certain because we can always find reasons not to. We can always decide that this is not the right time, that a better time will come down the road. But it is really leaning into our willingness and our desire to get started now and our willingness to grow and our willingness to let it be messy. And really this is what it comes down to is learning how to lose weight in real life, how to heal your relationship with food and body in real life. With all of life's chaotic stressors, it's learning how to redefine your self worth and the way that you think and see yourself. And it's really there to help guide you through this next season as you navigate relationships, even friendships, not just dating. Yes, dating is a key part of what I coach a lot of clients on now as well. But it's also in building sustainable friendships and being willing to let go of those friendships and those relationships with other people or even the work environments that are really just bringing you down and noticing what's coming up for you in your body, in your mind, in your soul, and how to reconcile that and make the Best decisions for you, for yourself. You've already left the toxic marriage, you've left the toxic dating dynamic. You have already done some really hard, difficult things. And now there's still work to be done around uncovering and decoding the patterns of why you got into those relationships, why you got into those dynamics and why you stayed. When we understand that it helps to create so much self trust as we go out and create new things, new relationships, new work opportunities. And that's exactly why I'm making this limited time offer for this VIP retreat plus year long coaching. So let's break it down because you are going to get a full year of private coaching and this creates such incredible transformation.
[00:06:09] There are a couple of aspects that we are going to focus on. And so while every private coaching container looks a little bit different because everything is really customized to the client, there are still these core overarching aspects that we will be addressing. So number one, I'm going to help you break lifelong emotional patterns. And for so many of us it's emotional avoidance. We are emotionally eating because we don't know how to regulate our emotions. We don't know how to regulate our nervous system. We have so much shame and toxic dieting habits. And I want to help you create food freedom. I want to help you learn how to better manage and regulate your emotions and your nervous system and increase your capacity to feel, to feel the negative emotions as well as safety feeling the positive emotions. Because we all know that when things are going well, that can be just as scary and nerve wracking as when things aren't. Because when things are going well and we're used to something always happens when's the other shoe gonna drop? It can't be this good forever, right? It's not safe to feel this good. And so we often have to expand our capacity for joy and pleasure just as much as we need to expand our capacity to feel loneliness or anger or heartache. These are the types of patterns that we're working through as it relates to food as well as, as it relates to people and others and relationships. So people pleasing is another core pattern that I work with so many clients around and really better understanding what is important to you. Where are your boundaries, how, how to really build and strengthen your self trust and then to be able to enforce those boundaries with love. Because just sharing a boundary doesn't really do much. We have to be able to enforce it, we have to be able to follow through on it. And I want to help you break those codependent loops so that you feel like a competent decision maker. You have the self authority and the self trust to be able to make strong intuitive decisions for you. And part of this means we have to better understand and identify what where we heard the intuition and we didn't listen. And we want to know why. This is where we get really curious and really compassionate and understanding why is this happening? Why did I choose to turn away or why did I choose to lie to myself? I can look back on my own life experiences and I can see how with one relationship in particular, where he was lying to me. But I also have to acknowledge and recognize I wanted to believe those lies.
[00:08:42] I then lied to myself and there are reasons why I don't have to sit in shame and regret and self loathing. I can recognize that there was a reason and that now becomes my work, that is part of my healing. I can recognize where he was wrong for lying, but I no longer get to keep blaming him. I have to look at my part, my responsibility, and own that so that I don't keep recreating this same dynamic in future relationships with future people. I'm going to help you to really understand these codependent loops and cycles. And they also play out with food. It's not just with people, it's with food that we have this codependency on, right? We keep looking for food or alcohol to make us feel better, to meet our emotional needs. We are codependent on this other thing. And when it is something like food, something like sustenance that we need every single day, it can create a lot of internal turmoil.
[00:09:38] And so often we have such a toxic relationship with food. Food has been made to be good or bad, evil and poison. And we really can get so wrapped up in how we moralize ourselves based on what we're eating or based on our weight or the size of our body. And it's really about redefining our worth. We need to recognize our own needs and create the emotional safety and the emotional capacity for ourselves.
[00:10:04] I'm going to teach you how to re parent yourself. That is going to allow you to hold space not just for your own emotions, your own activations, but those of people around you in particular, any kids. This is where our kids and their meltdowns, their tantrums, their attitude, their dysregulation can really activate our own. When we learn how to re regulate our own emotions, we then can hold space. When we have kids, or maybe sometimes even siblings or best friends who might be going through their own dysregulation at times. And we can also help to guide and to teach them how to do this for themselves.
[00:10:44] This is how you become a cycle breaker. This is where you break generational cycles of trauma and abuse.
[00:10:53] Yes, you have left the relationship, yes you have left the marriage, but we still have internal patterns to break. We still have lessons we want to teach our kids and we want them to go forward with. So that is a huge piece really is understanding the emotional patterns and how do we break these cycles.
[00:11:10] Number two is creating a deep internal identity shift.
[00:11:16] This is what I call your self concept. We want to go from constantly thinking about and needing to quote, fix yourself to becoming the person you trust, from chasing validation to self led confidence, from reactive and struggling in survival mode to grounded self leadership and a renewed self belief. This is the core of change and transformation in any part of life. So whether you want to create a new relationship or you want to find a new job, you want to build a new business, you want to lose weight and end emotional eating, no matter what your goal is, your self concept, your identity is at the crux of it. And that's what we have to heal. Because for so many years, for so many decades, maybe even your entire life, this has been eroded. And there may be some ups and downs, right? We can see little blips on the radar of where we maybe had high confidence, high self belief, high internal worth and value.
[00:12:16] But so often we keep outsourcing that we outsource our worth and our value to our bodies, to the number on the scale, to what somebody else thinks about us. For me, even for a while, I outsource that to my ex husband's validation. In him choosing me made me somehow worthy or better. And if he is making me better, I can't leave him. Doesn't matter how bad things might get. But it's like if my worth is so tied up and wrapped up in him, it makes it so hard to leave. And when we don't understand what is happening, when we haven't yet decoded these patterns, we keep recreating them in other areas.
[00:12:54] So sometimes this looks like we keep getting into toxic relationships, we keep dating the same person but with a different face.
[00:13:01] It looks like spilling over into food and alcohol and the same type of dysfunctional codependent relationship.
[00:13:09] And what we have to do is really bring it back to ourselves. How you think and view yourself, that is so, so important. That is the number one foundational aspect that everything will build off of.
[00:13:22] Now because this programming was set as a young child it's going to take some time, which is why I love this 12 month support for trauma informed coaching.
[00:13:34] We are going to cycle through holidays and seasons and travel and new relationships and probably some breakups. And you will have me by your side every step of the way. I'll help you to practice new patterns, I'll help you to practice new beliefs. I'll help bring you back to your center to do things your own way. Because it's not about what I'm doing, it's not about how I'm creating new things in life. It's about what you want.
[00:14:01] That's what is so important. We want to break all the rules just because everybody else. Well, I wouldn't say everybody. Just because there are a lot of people out there on dating apps doesn't mean that that's where you have to find a new person.
[00:14:12] You don't have to be on a dating app. I have found somebody on there, but there are some challenges. There are some things that we have to be really aware of if you're using them and that is not a problem.
[00:14:23] But you get to do this your own way. And if you want to meet somebody in person, if you want to meet somebody in a different way, I guarantee you you can. But you have to believe that first you get to believe that it's possible. And now we are going to go through and look at all of the rules that we think we should be playing by and we are going to smash the hell out of them. And I'm going to help you build your own way. And because we are working together for a year, you're no longer starting over every couple of months your growth is compounding. You're not having to re explain yourself to different people or multiple practitioners. You are truly evolving, you're growing and you are truly embracing that compounding effect of this growth and this healing work.
[00:15:07] And you're going to have someone by your side.
[00:15:10] Me, a trained professional. Not only have I lived this, not only have I walked this, but I help you spot your patterns, to see your blind spots, to really strengthen you where you need it. Because I understand you at your core. I see you, I see you at such a deep level and there is so much love and compassion and this is one of my zones of genius. This is part of my God given gift, is to be able to see things that you can't, to be able to connect the dots, to be able to take these really big high level concepts and sometimes what feels overwhelming, kind of scary and break it down into simple, bite sized, easy to implement, easy to understand, easy to get the benefits from, to actually truly implement in your life so that life starts to look different, life feels different.
[00:15:57] This is part of how I've been designed and I'm leaning into that because not only is this how I'm doing my own life, it's how I know I can help you create the best life for yourself. A life so good you don't need an escape from it. A life so good it blows your mind. A life so good, you're like, pinch me. Can this really be real?
[00:16:17] A life so good it doesn't make sense.
[00:16:21] And that comes from this compounding work, the compounding effort, the intention, the consistency and all those times when we typically want to do those little quits, when we want to run away, when we want to hide.
[00:16:34] I'm going to teach you how to release the shame, release the self judgment and create so much love and compassion for yourself.
[00:16:42] Because even if your last toxic relationship was 5, 10, 20 years ago, if you have not done true healing work, those patterns, those cycles are still at play. And what happens is it creates fear. We have fear around dating, we have fear around the opposite sex, we have fear around other people and friendships. We just take that with us. And we don't trust ourselves. We don't learn how to do things differently. All we learn how to do is avoid, which is the exact same thing we learned to do with food. We don't trust ourselves around food. And so all we try to do is avoid the quote, bad food. That's the only thing we know how to do.
[00:17:19] And it's not healthy, it's not sustainable, and it keeps you living in survival mode.
[00:17:24] And I want to help you up level, I want to help you shift, I'm going to help you create healthy, steady weight loss without obsessing, without all the food noise and the mind drama. To truly recognize and release and heal from diet trauma that you've experienced so that you can eat normally without spiraling, you can eat anything without falling off the wagon or saying screw it. I'll start over again next month.
[00:17:52] To really create consistent patterns and to truly transform your relationship with food and body. I'm going to help you to create more confident communication with family and coworkers and partners.
[00:18:07] I'm going to help you navigate the dating scene if that's something you want and you want to start dating again. I'm going to help you navigate the dating side and how to truly call in and attract a future partner. How to attract Your healthy partner, your healthy man, your healthy woman.
[00:18:23] Someone who has done the work. Someone who has so many green flags it just doesn't make sense. Someone where even though you're mindful and aware, you just can't seem to see any red flags.
[00:18:35] This is possible for you too.
[00:18:37] Not all men are little six year old boys running around in 56 year old bodies. There are really high quality men out there. And part of this is you have to be on their wavelength too. If you want a high quality man, you got to be a high quality woman. And it works in reverse. You want a high quality woman, you need to be a high quality man. And it's time to level up and you need to be on that same energetic frequency so that things align and they match.
[00:19:06] No more collapsing into self doubt, no more breakdowns and mini quits because you're feeling frustrated or anxious or worried or you find yourself stuck in those same patterns doing the same thing over and over again. I'm going to teach you how to learn from it so that you can break free. Because every time we go through those dynamics, we learn, we get better and better. And all those times when we are used to going left, there's going to come a day when we can look at it, we can love ourselves through it, and we're going to start to go straight.
[00:19:37] And after a couple times of going straight, we're going to eventually go right and we are going to start making the decisions that we know we're capable of doing. But it takes time and it takes practice and it takes looking at it. It takes the evaluation and the assessment process that is truly effective so that you can feel at home and at peace in your body, your relationships, in your career, in your life.
[00:20:01] That is what this is all about, has all to do with the body. This is not about having some skinny body or looking good in a bikini. This is about creating a life you love. A life that lights you up inside. Yes, the body is going to come. Yes, the food, habits and relationships are going to come. But it's about this overarching life. Because if one piece is off, it's all going to feel terrible.
[00:20:23] And for many of us, a lot of pieces have been off. And the beauty of it is that when we start working on one area, we start to create this ripple effect into all other areas.
[00:20:34] And then to top it all off, to make this even better, on top of this year of coaching that we are going to do together and these incredible results that you're going to create, we are Also going to co create and design and craft a custom VIP retreat weekend just for for you. And this is where magic happens. This is 100% customized to you. Nothing is cookie cutter. We are going to map out the vision of the retreat. We're going to look at what are the core aspects, what are the core patterns that you really want to shift. And I'm going to design the weekend around you. Your trauma, your wounds, your desires and your pace.
[00:21:15] The amazing part here too is it doesn't even have to be a weekend, it could be a Tuesday through Friday. We get to create this in a way that works for you.
[00:21:24] Whether we're at the beach or we're in the mountains. It's about creating an experience where you can truly focus on yourself and create the healing. And so what we're going to do in this three day event is we're going to work on the somatic and body release work really better understanding your nervous system and nervous system responses, how to reset them, how to re regulate, how to allow yourself to feel. I'm going to teach you how to interrupt patterns and rewire your brain and your emotions. Because as we rewire our brain, we are also now rewiring our emotional capacity and emotional awareness. I'll give you personalized tools that match your triggers, tendencies, patterns and cycles. And there'll be space to heal without performing, without people pleasing, without needing to prove or earn or justify anything. We're going to look at your one year future vision and focus on the life that you want to create and what it would look like to truly embody these things, to step into that role, to step into that life.
[00:22:28] Awareness is great, but we have to implement it, we have to internalize it, we have to embody it. And that's part of where this comes together. You also get to play off of my energy.
[00:22:40] You get to feel the energy of being in the same room, being in that presence with me, with that love and that support and that compassion. This retreat is going to help accelerate your transformation because six weeks is great, but we can do so much in just six hours on one day. There is so much power within this smaller container for healing and transformation.
[00:23:04] You're gonna leave the daily stressors, you're gonna be able to get out of the normal things that have you playing in the same cycles, the same things over and again. You get instant feedback and I'm going to help you create that baseline of safety, learn what regulating your nervous system looks like and feels like for you in person, in the moment and you'll go home a different version of yourself. Then we get to spend the rest of the year integrating it all, giving yourself the space and the ability to let go of the pressures of life, to let go of the things that are on our minds and truly step into this transformation.
[00:23:41] You're going to release shame, guilt and fear.
[00:23:45] You're going to notice and have this awareness around how to better regulate your emotions. You will renew your relationship with food and body.
[00:23:55] You're going to have better awareness around the boundaries that you want to have in life and how to enforce them with love. And you're going to create a deep sense of self trust and self belief.
[00:24:06] Because at the core, that's what this is all about.
[00:24:09] So I have four spots available for this offer because it's private coaching. This is available for men and for women.
[00:24:17] I've specifically designed the group to be just for women. However, the one on one coaching, I do take on a few male clients every year. Here's how to know if this is the right fit for you. You have done some self improvement work. You've read books, maybe gone to therapy. And while there's awareness of patterns and obstacles, you still feel a little stuck in the same emotional loops, the same cycles, the same patterns. You can see it happening, but you don't fully know how to break it or where or what that looks like.
[00:24:45] You're smart, you're kind, you're self aware, but you're also likely exhausted.
[00:24:51] You're used to giving to everyone else around you and you're ready to put your needs, wants and desires first.
[00:24:59] You want to go all in on yourself, even if it feels a little scary to do that. It feels a little scary to bet on yourself, to say yes to yourself. But you know that you are going to thrive with this deep level of support and accountability.
[00:25:12] And you truly want transformation. You want it to be real, not theoretical, not rhetorical, not just to check a box, but true deep transformation with who you are, how you see yourself, and how you show up in the world.
[00:25:29] So as a recap, here's what's included. We are going to spend all of 2026 coaching together. Weekly coaching calls plus Voxer support in between calls where you can send voice or text messages and you can use it as a space to process through everything you're dealing with. And we are going to start private coaching now, both with weekly calls and voxer support to help you navigate through the end of this year. We will co create a VIP retreat weekend and customize it specifically to Your wants and desires.
[00:26:00] You get access to all course content within the body you crave accelerator and you'll get access to all future workshops and resources. There are four spots available. Your next best step is to schedule a free
[email protected] schedule and this consultation is really designed to have a conversation to explore if this is the right fit for you. For some people, you're going to hear this and you're going to know yes. It's gonna feel like a hell yes. Total body in alignment. This is what I want. And for some, maybe you want to explore if this is the right fit. Maybe you want to say yes. But there's still some fear, there's still some hesitation. Let's talk through it. This is not a high pressured sales conversation. I don't need a yes right on the call. I want you to come in and use it as an opportunity to explore what you want, what's possible. And I want to help you to lean into that vision and help you to lean into what is it that you actually desire. Because especially as women, but as recovering people pleasers, as recovering perfectionists, being in this enabler position for so long, we are so used to putting everyone else's needs ahead of ours. And this is a time where we can start to prioritize our needs, our wants, our desires. We can start making decisions from a place of desire, not from a place of need, not from a place of I have to. And that can feel kind of scary because we have been trained that our desires don't matter. What we want is frivolous. What we want is stupid, and we shouldn't spend money on that. But you are valuable. You are worth this investment because you are worth it. If your body is leaning in. I want you to trust that if you have an inkling and this desire at this pole, I want you to trust that you don't have to feel 100% ready. You just have to be willing. Willing to get started, willing to get scrappy, willing to do it messy and deep compassion and willingness to learn. And I'll be there to guide you through all of it.
[00:28:03] This is the beginning of 2026. You can step into the energetic beginning of 2026 now and create your next level identity before the year even starts.
[00:28:15] If you want to create the deepest, most permanent transformation in your life, this is the container for you. All right, let's talk about the investment here real quick before we wrap up. So one year of private coaching, plus the retreat, plus the end of this year as a bonus Paid in full is $12,000. You can break it into two payments of 6,500 or you can split that into 12 or 15 monthly payments as well. We are going to collapse time. We're going to take that one year future vision, maybe even that three year future vision. And by just keeping with that focus, I guarantee you are going to create it even faster. You're going to do even more, even better, even faster. You're going to create that life that's so good, it blows your mind. It's so good it doesn't make sense. And especially after divorce, after emotional or spiritual abuse, this is what so many of us need.
[00:29:11] And this is when you believe in yourself. You bet on yourself. And in those moments of uncertainty, in those moments of self doubt, know that I've got your back through all of this.
[00:29:21] I believe in you. I know that you can do this. You have already come so far. You've already done so much work. It is amazing that we are not just piles of goo on the floor. Like you are so resilient and I want to help you take that and take that pain and turn it into purpose, turn it into meaning, do something impactful with it. Because there was a reason that this happened. There was a reason you've had these experiences. You are not a victim. Life is not happening to you. You get to cultivate it and curate it on purpose. And I can help you do that.
[00:29:56] All right. If you'd like to learn more or if you're just like hell yeah, I'm in. Let's fucking go. Schedule a call. You can visit bodyucrave.com forward/schedule. Find a day and time on my calendar and let's make 2026 the year that everything changes.
[00:30:13] Have a fabulous rest of your weekend.
[00:30:16] Here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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