Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches, or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally, break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready? Let's go.
[00:00:24] Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
[00:00:25] And welcome to what might become a new series on what GLP1s can't heal. Because I am a firm believer that they can heal a lot of internal systems, right? They can heal metabolic pathways, they can heal the nervous system at a physical level. They heal the gut, they heal the brain, they heal the organs, they can heal a lot of you physically. But there's still emotional healing that needs to be done, especially when we've been through trauma and abuse. And these go hand in hand. Because the physiological manifestation of trauma and abuse is typically dysregulated cortisol, which drives all of these other symptoms in the body, which often lead to weight gain, and I would say 90% of the time lead to an autoimmune condition.
[00:01:12] And so we want to be able to heal it from all angles. But if you're just healing the body, that's not gonna be enough. We also need to heal the mind and the nervous system on that emotional. We need to be able to sit with the agitation and the dysregulation that we feel when our nervous system is responding the way that it always has for decades. Just like these mental and emotional tools may not be enough and we need some GLP, the same is true in reverse. The GLPs alone cannot heal everything.
[00:01:42] And at the end of the day, a smaller body doesn't fix a broken self concept. And so often we keep doing things in the hopes that this is what's gonna make us happy. And I was just talking with a client recently telling me a story about one of her friends who is wanting a tummy tuck because she thinks this is gonna make me happy. This is going to solve all my problems, when really it's probably going to create more. But that's a story for another day.
[00:02:08] So what we're gonna talk about today, though, is why we keep going back to old patterns. Why do we self sabotage? Why is our hyper vigilant part so active and so on guard? And this is so common. I was thinking about it because this weekend I straightened my hair. I'm sorry, I actually forgot to take a picture. And the straight hair lasted all of maybe two hours.
[00:02:30] So it does not last very long. But Saturday, I was like, ah, you know What? It's date night. Let me do something a little different. So I straightened my hair, and by the time dinner was done, it was already starting to get wavy. And then about an hour later, I could see it, like, starting to curl. My hair was very much determined to go back to curly. It was like, what have you done? This isn't what we do. We are not straight. We are curly. We are doing this. And definitely by the next morning, even without getting it wet or being in a lot of humidity or anything like that, the curls were definitely coming out. It made me laugh, but it was just such a great analogy and such a great representation of what our brains do and how our brains are constantly taking us back to this is what we know, this is what's familiar. And that familiarity is what creates safety. That's why our brains are so good at trying to maintain the status quo. And sometimes it does that with habits. Sometimes it's like, oh, you're used to. Or you're in the habit of getting fast food on your way home from work at night, and that becomes a habit to break. You might know that you want to go home and cook a meal, or you might know you want to stop at the grocery store and get something else.
[00:03:40] But the habit is there, and the habit is hard to override because it's familiar. It's what you know. It's that status quo. But there are also habits when it comes to thoughts and emotions and our nervous system responses that are just as strong when it comes to keeping us safe, because to our brain, safety equals alive. If you are unsafe, that means you might die.
[00:04:05] Even though that unsafety might be a negative emotion like embarrassment, it might be a negative interaction from a spouse. For many of us, I would say there's been more emotional, verbal, spiritual abuse. We weren't actually physically hit, but our bodies and our nervous system still responds as if we were. We still feel the fear and our stomach tightening and churning, and we still have a really visceral response.
[00:04:31] And it's really interesting how that can even translate over into other people and other dynamics.
[00:04:38] So I noticed sending out a text to a friend a couple months ago and feeling like my stomach was really tense, and I was waiting for a response, and I just felt so dysregulated. Even though nothing was necessarily really wrong, I was just feeling a little left out and maybe a little forgotten about. And I wasn't sure if maybe this was me being excluded from the group as a whole or like, I wasn't sure what to expect with that, but I just felt so dysregulated and waiting for a response and having this text conversation. It didn't take a long time for her to respond, but it also wasn't instantaneous. And I noticed that waiting for a response, it felt terrible, it felt awful in my body.
[00:05:19] It's normal that our nervous system is going to respond a certain way, that we will have trauma responses.
[00:05:26] It's normal that emotions and thoughts are going to be on loop and they are there to keep us safe because that safety equals we stay alive. And this is really important because our brains are always pulling us back to what feels safe. And so anytime that we want to create lasting change, we've got to first create emotional stability and a new emotional foundation. Otherwise we're constantly going to be pulled back into the old one, the old version of ourselves, the old way that we used to respond. And I could see this so clearly with dating. Dating. After my divorce, I kept being attracted to people who would love bomb me and people who were not healthy and some were worse than others. But it wasn't until I had this rock bottom moment where I was like, oh my gosh, I need a new level of emotional safety and emotional stability in myself.
[00:06:18] First, before bringing a man in, I needed to better learn how to meet my own emotional needs so that I wasn't falling back into that same pattern of toxic relationships and toxic dynamics because I was relying on somebody else to meet my needs for me in order to not get sucked back into that. I needed more of an emotional foundation in and of myself. I needed more of a self love and really knowing that I could meet those needs which were feeling special and chosen and wanted things that I had put onto a man that I needed to take back and figure out for myself. This comes up with romantic relationships, it's going to come up with parenting, it will come up with any type of family dynamic. It's going to come up with weight loss and with your body and with food, for sure.
[00:07:07] So this happened Saturday, and then Sunday I was coaching a client and it was really interesting to see how these two things lined up.
[00:07:15] So she had a great lunch with one of her kids. She has four kids total, one of whom does not speak to her, but she has three other kids that she has a pretty good relationship with. This one that she was meeting with for lunch in particular is somebody that she has a really good relationship with right now.
[00:07:31] And even though the lunch was good and everything was fine and there were no issues, she still walked away feeling agitated and Restless and uneasy, like something must be wrong.
[00:07:42] We talked through it and I reminded her that she has created a lot of really open space and opportunities for them to communicate and share with her. Just like she has opened doors and created space for herself to process through things as well.
[00:07:57] But I know that one of her big fears, or I would say probably the biggest fear, is that all of her kids will cut her out of their lives and she won't be in their lives or any future grandbabies lives. And especially with one son already doing that, I think there's this fear of being, being misunderstood, being cut out and not being a part of the lives. And it's like it's the loss of the hope of the future you thought you were going to have, which is really how I describe grief. The lunch was great, but her brain was still scanning for danger. It was still looking for the negative. I brought up this concept of her hypervigilant part. So within internal family systems or ifs, there's this idea of parts work, where each part has a role to play. And a part, I'm going to put part in quotes, is like a different emotion or a different age. It's got its own Persona, right? It's like why there's a part of you that wants to sit on the couch and eat cookies and there's also a part of you that wants to go for a walk, right? We have competing parts, we have competing desires, competing interests. After a lifetime, truly a lifetime of neglect and abuse, her hyper vigilant part was so used to looking for danger. It was so used to being prepared for the next bad thing to happen. Especially in relationships with her kids, with her ex and with other friends, with her church community. In so many different ways, she has experienced relationships really not being safe, not being easy, not being what she thought they were or what she hoped they were. And so this hypervigilant part has been very strong. And hyper vigilance is, I think of it in simple terms as when your brain is still on guard, scanning for danger. Even when things are good, calm and safe, our brains are always waiting for that other shoe to drop. And this is really normal for trauma survivors. It's really normal for people who have been in abusive relationships, especially emotional and mental abuse, and especially when that was as a kid or in a marriage and in a way where it's like you could not escape it. It felt very hard, very difficult. Even in a marriage, that is a very difficult thing to escape. Especially as anybody religious where divorce is not an option. Divorce is seen as a huge sin, a huge stain.
[00:10:16] It's seen as such a bad option, a bad thing to pursue. It really does keep us feeling stuck. Even though as an adult and in a marriage, you can leave, you have so much more autonomy and ability to be able to leave. But there can be mental emotional pressures, there can be spiritual or even family social pressures that keep you feeling stuck, keep you in that dynamic and in that relationship because of the abuse cycle, where things are good for a time and then things get bad and then they go back to being good, but they never stay good. Something always happens, the other shoe always drops. That's because there is always either this ego or narcissistic wound or injury. That's how I think of it, is like, things are fine, they're calm. They may not be good, but they're at least calm.
[00:11:04] And then there is some type of ego injury, especially for someone who has a lot of narcissistic tendencies. And then they lash out. So they lash out trying to keep themselves safe. Their codependency comes out, and it's like they need you to show up a certain way so that they can feel better. So they're going to lash out with control and manipulation and insulting words and in all kinds of different ways to try to control you, to get you to do a certain thing or to not do a certain thing. And then typically what you find is with these narcissistic types of people, you have them pairing and matching with a people pleaser. And so the pleaser now feels very dysregulated, very much feels responsible for this outburst and for this bad thing that's happened, for these emotions, for their actions.
[00:11:52] And so they now do whatever they can to try to appease, to get things to go back to normal. It's like whatever you've got to do to make it stop. And then they've made it stop, they figured it out, now they're back to calm. The problem is that this is a cycle, and it keeps going around and around and around, and it does not stop. It does not stop until you leave that dynamic, until you leave that relationship.
[00:12:17] We have to break it by no longer giving people access to ourselves in that way.
[00:12:22] So whether that's a parent, a sibling, a spouse, or an ex spouse, this is what has to change. We can't stay in a toxic environment and expect to get healthy. This goes for workplaces too. But because it's not safe, your brain learns. Even though it's good, even though it's calm, this is Short term, this is going to be short lived. Something bad always happens. You're on edge. It's like you're constantly holding your breath. You're constantly waiting and scanning for when's the next bad thing to happen. And your brain now is going to be proactive and it's going to try to find the bad things so that you can solve them and so that you're not caught off guard. It's going to look for the worst case scenarios also so that you're not caught off guard because that feels terrible, right? It's one thing to know and to see it coming. It's one thing if you start to fight and you stand up for yourself and you advocate for yourself and then you get shut down even harder. That is one thing when you sense it coming, but when it comes out of nowhere, when the person that you're with or you're talking to goes from like a 2 to a 10 on a scale of 0 to 10 in terms of rage and outburst, when they start off and it's like a simple disagreement or discussion and they're at like a 2 and they're just a little worked up and all of a sudden they get to a 10, you feel really caught off guard. And sometimes we felt this as a kid where a parent suddenly turns, where all of a sudden it's rage, it's like this excessive anger that really does not fit the level of what happened. It truly like a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type of experience. But when you're on the receiving end of that, it's not safe. When you grow up in a dynamic like that, it's hard to see it for what it is. When you find yourself in a romantic relationship or a work environment, definitely in a marriage. Because a lot of times these people are really good at hiding their true colors until they gotcha. Until that ring is on, until you're married, until a certain thing happens. It's like you don't always see the negative early enough to be able to know how to handle it.
[00:14:32] And even then I wonder, like I wonder for myself, had I seen things earlier, before I got married, would I still have overridden them? Because I still didn't even know what to look for as a red flag. The red flags that I can look back and see when I was dating and engaged, I still overlooked them. I still didn't know that was a red flag. Anyways, these are really important patterns. This is something that a GLP one cannot heal, right?
[00:14:58] This is some deeper work.
[00:15:00] You can get into a smaller body, but that does not fix a broken self concept. It does not heal your emotional trauma, it does not heal these emotional wounds. And it does not keep these same patterns from showing up. And how you show up in these situations as a perfectionist or people pleaser and how you show up in these dynamics, getting into the same relationships over and over again. It's like the same person just with a different face.
[00:15:26] This is what we have to work on and this is what I love doing with clients. Like, I love talking about weight loss and I especially think that I have a very unique perspective. And so I love being able to share that with people because it brings so much peace and freedom and hope for the future. And that's why I love GLP1s. Because we can also heal our internal systems, but we need to spend time and energy healing the emotional side of things as well. Healing that emotional dysregulation and healing the mental side. Like rebuilding our self trust, our self concept really like how we see ourselves, how we believe in ourselves.
[00:15:58] That is so important.
[00:16:00] And that's something that a GLP one can never do. While a smaller body doesn't fix a broken self concept, a smaller body also isn't going to heal your trauma. It's not going to heal the relationship trauma. It's not going to ensure that you don't get into another bad dynamic. It's not going to help you to believe in yourself more.
[00:16:18] If anything, sometimes we have more fear around that thing that we're using because we're like, oh dear God, this can't ever go away. What if I regain the weight? Because we've never changed who we are on the inside. We need both together. This is why my framework includes all of it. This is why I think some of my clients actually needed some more GLP1 support. They needed a little more hormonal support. They needed some other interventions for their bodies physically to heal.
[00:16:46] The mental and emotional side wasn't enough. But we can't just do the physical side and not also put any stock into the mental and emotional side.
[00:16:54] And it doesn't matter how long ago that toxic relationship was. It doesn't matter if you have been out of it for 10 or 20 years. It doesn't matter if you experienced this as a kid and now have not been in a dysfunctional or toxic relationship as an adult. If you have not healed that trauma, it's still inside you. It's just dormant. This is what we get to do. And this is where we have a space to do it. This is part of what I do as a coach, is to help you identify and see what are the real problems so that we can find the real solution. What's really happening here? How can we solve for it properly and appropriately?
[00:17:32] Yes, I'm going to help you to lose weight, but it's not just about a smaller number on the scale. In fact, we cannot just be attached to that scale either. We need to have a healthy relationship with the scale so that we actually have some peace and ease and freedom so that you're also not terrified of regaining the weight. This becomes a little more of a complex issue. But here, just like with this client, we have to go back to her core fear. Her fear was that her kids would completely cut her off. So that's what her brain is scanning for, is this felt too easy, too safe. Something must be wrong. I gotta prevent this from happening before it even does. I need to spot a problem quickly. And sometimes we end up creating more problems. We overthink and we read into something way too much versus letting it be easy. Because in the past, easy wasn't good, easy wasn't safe.
[00:18:24] This is where we need to have so much love and compassion for ourselves. And we need to learn how to create that peace and safety in the ease so that we aren't just falling back into old patterns. And that's the thing here too, is that she could be £50 down, but this same exact pattern will still keep showing up if she does not heal that.
[00:18:45] So you can be in a smaller body, but it doesn't mean you're gonna love your life anymore. Doesn't mean that you're gonna love how you're showing up. In relationships there are layers. There are deeper and deeper layers that we want to work through. We wanna be able to recognize that hyper vigilant part in all of us because I guarantee we've all got one. And we need to give her permission to stand down, permission to take a break. And then the work becomes sitting with that nervous system dysregulation and breathing through it, really talking to yourself, talking through and soothing, calming your brain and what's coming up for you. And I know it can feel a little woo at times, it might even feel a little too easy.
[00:19:26] Right. Sometimes we have these thoughts, but we have to start to reassure ourselves and look at how can we create that sense of safety when things are good and safety when things feel easy and safety when things are peaceful and that we're not just always trying to pick a fight and start an argument, because we're used to that constant dysregulation of a toxic relationship. And at the end of the day, this is not self sabotage, it's self protection.
[00:19:52] Your brain is simply running old protective patterns. And this happens when you regain weight, when you leave a healthy relationship and you're like, nope, I don't feel the spark, or, nope, it's not gonna work, I don't like how they breathe. Nope, don't want this one, or they're boring. I think that's another one. And this does not mean that you settle. We still want to go for people who we have this chemistry and personal compatibility with, but I'm not looking for the spark.
[00:20:19] We so get caught up in these all or nothings. And it doesn't have to be this either or. But this is often what happens. These protective programs that comes up when you can't relax on vacation or when you feel guilty for sitting still or taking a break.
[00:20:33] These are not character flaws. It's a nervous system adaptation.
[00:20:39] So if we go back to my hair story, our brains and our bodies are naturally primed and wired to go a certain direction, even when it's not necessary, even when it's not what we're trying to do. It's like our brains are so used to being curly, it's like, nope, this is the path we go. This is what we're doing.
[00:20:56] And it is in the beginning. It will take some conscious effort and energy to rewire that, to rewrite the ship. The cool thing, though, about GLP1s is that we can create new neural pathways easier. And I think that's what's really fascinating, is if you are using a glp, this is the time to ensure that you are creating new habits, new action habits, new mental thought habits, and new emotional habits, because this is a prime time for that stuff to stick.
[00:21:25] So we wanna see this as self protection, not self sabotage. And it's interesting because we can look at, like, regaining weight. I'd say that's a common struggle for many people that I talk to, nearly everybody. It's like they've lost weight before, but they can't keep it off. And so a lot of times what happens is there is some sort of metabolic adaptation and your body rebounds by regaining weight. And it does so for physiological reasons. It's trying to keep you safe, keep you alive.
[00:21:53] But there's also psychological components here. There's also reasons as to why it feels safer to be overweight.
[00:22:00] And logically, it's not going to make any sense. But on a subconscious level, there is something scary or there is something unsafe about the weight loss. I had a client a couple years ago who really wanted to lose about 20 pounds. She also had this fear that when she was thinner, she attracts toxic men.
[00:22:20] The real problem was that she didn't trust herself around men and her judgment of men. But that manifested as inconsistent weight loss because life in that smaller body still wouldn't have been safe on many levels. We really have to be mindful of what we're attaching to the weight loss or what that weight loss means, what happens. And it's easy to logically see it and to be like, oh, okay, logically, I know that doesn't make sense, but in her body, it's going to be a hard pattern to override. This is why we need more of that mental emotional support. It can't just be a, oh, I see this thought and I see this logic, and it doesn't make sense. So now I'm just not going to believe it. This is something on a very deep level that is ingrained. And so part of it is we have to create new evidence to the contrary.
[00:23:11] As an example of this, when I was working on my emotional eating, this is the beginning of 2020, when I was really very much working on this and maybe even the end of 2019. But at some point I was like, there was a point in my life when I could eat carbs and I didn't balloon up and gain £10 in a day. I could eat carbs like a normal, healthy person. And so I had this thought of, what if eating carbs isn't going to make me fat or make me gain £20 out of nowhere? Because I had this story of I can't lose weight and eat carbs.
[00:23:40] And it's not that I wanted to only eat carbs, but I was just so afraid of carbs. And what I later was able to notice and recognize was that trying to restrict the carbs, especially during the day, led to a lot of my binging and overeating and my cravings later at night. I started with this premise of when I was a kid, when I was like 10, 15 years old, I was able to eat some carbs and not gain weight. I think it would be possible that I should be able to eat one serving of carbs each day and not gain weight. And I started with one serving, One serving. I think at like, lunch. Ish. I usually skipped breakfast. I wasn't that hungry in the morning. So whatever my first meal was, I made sure that I had one serving of carbs. So sometimes that was a piece of bread, sometimes it was a quarter cup of rice. Like, I would measure it out, and it was like I was creating safety and showing and proving to my brain I can eat carbs and not balloon up. And then from there it went to, okay, so I can eat this one serving. What if I ate one serving at lunch and one serving at dinner, could that actually help me to feel more satiated? Could that actually help me to curb the cravings? And I ran this as an experiment, and I worked and I created new evidence for myself and for my body. I created new evidence because I had a lot of evidence in the past of how I ate carbs and then I gained weight or I didn't run and then I gained weight or it would be like, it'd be arbitrary. And then the scale would go down and I wouldn't know why, but that always just popped right out of my head. It was like, that's a fluke. That's not real.
[00:25:09] But I had a lot of, quote, evidence as to how I couldn't eat carbs and lose weight. The real issue was binging and emotional eating. That was the real issue. It really wasn't about the carbs. But I had to give myself new evidence, and I had to do that incrementally. I had to work with what I could within my nervous system and where I was with food rules. I had to work bit by bit, one step at a time.
[00:25:30] And that's exactly what we would do here with this relationship concept. And this is the exact same approach that we would take to any other part of life. But with the dating, for example, or with relationships with men or a romantic partner, this is where we do the same thing. It's like, you work to lose weight and then show you still have good judge of character. You look at what you can own. You look at, oh, it wasn't my body that was attracting them, and I had no control over it. It's that I felt guilty saying no to a date. I felt guilty getting this attraction and not reciprocating and feeling attracted to the person in return.
[00:26:06] I felt obligated to do this or to do that, or they told me I was beautiful, or they love bombed me, or they were meeting some sort of emotional needs. And then I just fell for it hook, line, and sinker. But that's not a weight problem. That's not a food problem.
[00:26:22] And so even though it's coming up around her body, it's like we have to now work to detach what was actually happening from her weight, from her.
[00:26:30] Once we can detach that, we now have to work and actually address then that relationship side of things. We can address those relationship aspects, meeting her own emotional needs. And then now go back to the weight loss as, okay, I'm going to practice and show myself that I can lose weight steadily and not regain it, but also not call in and attract negative men and also be okay turning men down.
[00:26:55] And this, it's like it, it really has so much more to do with these other areas.
[00:27:01] This is why we are not going to solve for weight loss in a vacuum. It's why we are not only focused on the scale going down. And that has been my motto for years now, has been, it's not just about the scale going down. Once we really want to let go of any type of obsession with the scale, any type of need, we have, anytime that number creates an emotional response or it sets the mood for your day, that's not a good place to be.
[00:27:26] Because if you let it make you happy when it goes down, if you attribute the scale to your happiness for the day because that number is lower, it will always go up at some point and it will freak you the F out. And that's not a good place to be. So we actually want to learn how to make that neutral. And that's going to feel kind of weird because we have spent our entire lives being excited and happy when the scale goes down.
[00:27:51] So there is a lot of deeper work that we get to do. And we do it bit by bit, step by step. It's like we're slowly peeling back layers of this onion. And I think one of the common thoughts and common challenges here is that a lot of women think, once I lose the weight, then I'll feel safe, then I'll be able to do these things, but I have to lose the weight first.
[00:28:12] But the opposite actually happens, because when the struggle ends, your nervous system suddenly notices all the feelings it was avoiding.
[00:28:19] The hardest part is actually learning who you are when you're no longer fighting with your body every day. Lasting change is when you've created a new emotional foundation for yourself. That's when you're going to create that lasting change. You have to have that foundation. So it's not once I lose the weight, then I'll feel safe. It's I have to figure out how to feel safe now. And in this journey, in this weight loss journey, this healing journey, and then losing weight will be a natural byproduct that's what happens. That is, I believe, how GLP1s work. They're not even a weight loss tool.
[00:28:54] They help your body to heal. And as your body is healing, a natural byproduct, a natural consequence is your body starts to function better. And now your weight reduces because everything internally is functioning the way it's supposed to. But this is why I don't teach weight loss in isolation. It's why I don't teach just one tool or just do this one thing or just do these certain habits. We really have to look at metabolism, hormones, inflammation, your relationship with food and body and yourself. We need to look at emotional eating and drinking habits, your nervous system regulation, and we really need to look at the deeper patterns that keep pulling you back to where you've always been. Because GLP1s can make change easier to some extent. They can help you create those new neural pathways.
[00:29:42] They can reduce cravings and improve insulin sensitivity. They can lower inflammation. But they can't teach your nervous system that it's finally safe to stop surviving.
[00:29:52] So here's what I know about most of my listeners. You have tried harder and harder for years. You've tracked the calories, you've cut the carbs, you've joined the challenges started over. Every Monday, you promised yourself this time would be different. I used to be queen of that island of like, today, for real, this week, this month, this would be different. And chances are you've lost some weight before, but you always found yourself right back where you started. Not because you lacked willpower or you didn't want it badly enough, and not because your body or your metabolism is broken. The truth is that most weight loss programs focus on changing your behaviors without changing the patterns that created them. They teach you what to eat, or they teach you what to avoid. They hand you out another set of rules to follow.
[00:30:39] But then the challenge is that you have to try to follow them in a vacuum. And everybody and everything around you has to show up perfectly so that you can follow this strict set of rules and lifestyle habits. We really have to work to create a lifestyle. But what people mean is you have to do the diet for the rest of your life. When they tell you that you have to make this your lifestyle. Yes, you have to do this for the rest of your life without hating your life. Because if there is any level of hating your life, any level of missing out on some portion of life are going to be jumping off of that diet bandwagon. We always do. What we have to address, though, is the deeper reasons that you keep going back to old habits, old coping mechanisms, the old version of yourself. And that's exactly why I created the 2020 project.
[00:31:23] Created it for women who are ready for something different.
[00:31:26] This is not another diet. It's a 20 week metabolic healing experience.
[00:31:31] And it's designed to help you stop fighting your body and finally lose the next £20. By addressing the root causes that traditional weight loss overlook.
[00:31:41] Together we're going to focus on four pillars that create lasting change. Number one, sustainable lifestyle habits. You're going to learn how to support your body in ways that fit your real life, not a perfect one. Not living life in this vacuum or in the little snow globe. I think about that of these winter wonderland snow globes. And they're so pretty, right? That's not real life.
[00:32:02] Anybody who lives in the snow can tell you. But we need habit change and we need to know what habits are important and how do we change them? What does that look like? Because there is so much competing and conflicting information. We need simple sustainable lifestyle change, but we also need that nervous system regulation and the emotional healing. Because a body stuck in survival mode will always struggle to feel safe enough to heal. We need hormone and metabolic support.
[00:32:27] So we need to address things like inflammation, especially when inflammation is such a key driver of autoimmune disease and so many of us have been through trauma and abuse. It's driving our inflammation, it's driving dysregulated cortisol, it's driving dysregulated insulin. Now, so all of this is driving us towards an autoimmune condition. We need to get that under control. We need physiological healing. This is why weight loss feels damn near impossible after 40.
[00:32:56] We also likely need some personalized GLP1 support and guidance for the women who want to use GLP1 peptides as a tool, not a lifetime dependency. I guide you on how to titrate up. Find the minimal effective dose that works for your body, no judgment, and then titrate down and off. We want to use it as long as it's necessary, and we want to use it to be able to maintain our results as needed. But we want to feel in control of ourselves. We want to feel in control of our hunger, of our cravings, of the food noise. So it's not there to override anything. It's not there to just crush your hunger, crush your desires. It's there to support you in your journey.
[00:33:38] This is a program for women who are tired of white knuckling their way through just another weight loss Attempt women who are ready to stop obsessing about food, to stop starting over, to stop blaming themselves, and to start creating a relationship with their body and build trust and understanding and healing. Because lasting weight loss isn't about becoming someone new. It's about removing the barriers that have prevented you from stepping into who you've always been.
[00:34:04] The goal is not just to lose £20. It's to create a life that feels safe enough to stay healthy in. I'll show you how to do all of this and more.
[00:34:14] If this message resonates with you, your next best step is to schedule a free consultation. Visit bodyucrave.com forward/schedule and find a day and time on my calendar that works best for you. This is your one precious life. We want to use it to the best of our abilities and sometimes life throws us curveballs and hell, sometimes life chucks lemons at our head. But no matter what, let's do something meaningful with them.
[00:34:41] Does not matter what you've experienced, what's come your way, you are an overcomer. You've made it this far. You know what incredible revenge is when you find the success that you've always been looking for. And it's not just about the weight loss. It's not just about a lower number on the scale. It's finding that peace and love and success and that life that you crave. And I'd love to help you create that.
[00:35:07] All right y', all, that is it for now. I hope you all have a fantastic week. Here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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