[00:00:02] Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches, or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready? Let's go.
[00:00:24] Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
[00:00:26] All right, so we are going to dive into some spicy topics now heading into the end of the year. And today in particular, I am going to start talking about self sabotage, and I'm going to do a few more episodes on that over the next couple of weeks. But really, one of the subtle thoughts that keep you stuck is often something that you learned as a kid. It is this thought of don't get your hopes up. Now, I just want you to think, how many times do you think you've said this to yourself?
[00:00:56] How many times do you think somebody else has said it to you? Just rough estimate. But usually this is something we hear as kids. We hear from parents, right? It's like parents are trying to manage our expectations as kids. And I get it right? Like, they don't want a total meltdown. So if the answer is maybe, but don't get your hopes up, it's because I don't want a total meltdown if we can't go for ice cream, or I don't want to have to manage your emotions if you don't get the thing that you want. And I totally get where it's coming from. But this is really a sabotaging thought for us in life as a whole. It's like going into school and taking a test and then being like, don't get your hopes up. You might have really sucked at that one. This might have been terrible. That's not helpful. That's not useful. We want to go in with confidence and certainty.
[00:01:44] And yet we've been taught to play it safe, to lower our expectations. And especially when we have narcissistic people in our lives and we've been in these dynamics for a while.
[00:01:56] That's how we've been trained. We've been trained by other people to not get our hopes up. We've lowered the bar. We've lowered those expectations, and often in such an extreme way that it's not useful. This really will hold us back.
[00:02:10] What I see underneath this concept of don't get your hopes up is the fear of disappointment. That's it. That is really it. It is just, I don't want to be disappointed. And that's why I'm not going to get my hopes up. I don't want to think about or believe in this good, positive thing happening because if it doesn't, I don't want to be disappointed later. And so it's this fear of disappointment. And I think when we look at the abuse cycle as well and these narcissistic dynamics, the other thing that comes into play is we're also not used to good things lasting because in that cycle things might be good for a time, but then the other shoe drops. Things don't stay good. There's always something negative that happens. And so there's also this aspect where it is very much this learned ingrained subconscious pattern of the good is nice. But don't get your hopes up that it's going to stay because inevitably something negative is going to come down the road and we don't know when, we don't know exactly where. We try to do a lot of pleasing and managing and placating others trying to keep it good.
[00:03:14] And really it's just this fear of being caught off guard. It's the, I don't want to be disappointed, I don't want to be caught off guard. I don't want to think everything is fine and amazing just to find out it's not. And it's terrible.
[00:03:25] There's a lot of trauma that plays into this thought. And so always keep in mind that self sabotage is self protection.
[00:03:33] That's what it is. It is your brain trying to protect you and keep you safe.
[00:03:37] And all of our habit brains, every single person has a habit reign that is a drama queen, like full on to the max drama queen.
[00:03:47] I really want you to get that mental picture in your mind and you can make it fun and like a caricature, right? But it's every time my drama queen wants to come out, that's what I call her. I'm like, oh, hey girl, thanks for coming to the party, right? Nice to see you again.
[00:04:02] But I make it fun. I don't have to avoid her or stuff her down or be angry that she's popping up. But I also know that she's very dramatic. And anytime there is the potential for something negative to happen, the potential for even a negative emotion, she is going to see that as life threatening, right? Like it is not just emotion. She are like in her brain, the way that she's thinking, it's, this could kill you, honey. We need to avoid it, right? If this is very risky, we cannot stand that.
[00:04:36] Just play it safe, lower the expectations, don't get your hopes up because she's really trying to manage things. And because we have learned and adopted these patterns from other people, often from parents, from siblings or grandparents even, really, it's just that caregiver role as a kid. And then we start to adopt it from friends or maybe a spouse or multiple boyfriends or girlfriends, right? It's like this learned pattern that just gets repeated over and over again.
[00:05:04] And so when we are working on our dysfunctional patterns, part of what we've gotta work on are these sabotaging thoughts that hold us back. And they're often thoughts that originally come from somebody else that we have now made our own. And so even though it's something that we may have learned as a kid or a teenager, this thought now is in your own brain. It's what you now are consciously. It's probably more subconsciously telling yourself, but sometimes it's a conscious thought, right? It's very much from a protect. We're aware of it, it's very much protection.
[00:05:36] But it. And a lot of times it feels like a good idea. We're like, yeah, you're right, drama queen. We should not get our hopes up. And really what this comes down to is an inability to. To feel disappointed.
[00:05:51] It's an inability or an unwillingness. It's, I don't want to be disappointed, so I don't want to get my hopes up.
[00:05:57] And it's really fascinating because this was something I really struggled with my business in the beginning. And this was one of the things I worked on with my coach in that first year. Kind of popped up a little bit over the next couple of years as I worked with her. But really in particular, I noticed it was like, not even this like, big, heavy emotion. It was like I was just afraid of feeling disappointed.
[00:06:17] And when I realized that, I was like, oh, what would it look like to feel disappointment?
[00:06:24] And what would it look like to embrace it, to lean into it, to allow it to not be so afraid of it? Like, when I thought about it, I was like, disappointment isn't really that big or heavy or scary of an emotion. It's a pretty like low level emotion in my opinion. Like, it's not this. It's not depression or anxiety. It's not what I think of as a really big, big, heavy, negative emotion. It's like low.
[00:06:48] And yet that is what was stopping me. And that's what I have to keep on reminding myself even to this day. I know that there is a fear of disappointment. And I now consciously, because I'm aware of it, because I've noticed this a couple years ago and have been actively working on it.
[00:07:05] I don't freak out when it comes up. I notice my brain is going to want to pop up with these kind of default patterns, these default thoughts. I know that's going to come in and I don't have to make that a problem.
[00:07:17] I also don't have to indulge in it, right? So rather than it being this like alarm bell going off where it's like dad, danger. I can really calm the F down and be like, oh, hey there. Hi drama queen, how are you? Oh, thank. And it's like I can have a little conversation with her and be like, thank you so much for protecting me and wanting to protect me from this fear of disappointment.
[00:07:42] But here's the thing. When we are trying to avoid disappointment, we are not going after our goals and our dreams and our desire with the ferocity that we really need in order to create big mind blowing results in order to create the life and body that is so good, it blows our mind. It's so good we don't need an escape with, with food, right? And it is that fear of disappointment that ends up holding us back and we end up perpetuating the system, right? We perpetuate that fear because it holds us back. And then we're like, oh, see, I couldn't do it. See, it's a good thing I didn't get my hopes up. It's a good thing I didn't really believe in myself because that would have been bad. That would have felt terrible.
[00:08:25] And really it's oh, what? What if I actually had some space in my body, in my nervous system to feel what disappointment feels like.
[00:08:33] And to me it's this like sinking pit feeling. Sometimes it's like some tension, some tightness.
[00:08:39] It's really not that bad.
[00:08:42] It's really more like a mental side of it too. And I think sometimes what comes in here as well is the fear of failure, right? And it's oh, I got my hopes up and then I failed, I made a mistake, right? And so I think we mix that in. That comes in here too, of don't get your hopes up and don't think too highly of yourself. Don't think too positive.
[00:09:02] Make sure you stay humble. Stay down here at the spaceline where you're now keeping everyone else happy and comfortable around you. And this is something I've thought about often, is how much society hates happy women.
[00:09:15] They hate happy people. But what I've noticed, especially unhappy women hate happy women, unhappy men hate happy men.
[00:09:26] And it goes across genders as well. But it is very triggering for other people. When you are feeling good, they will try to tear you down and bring you down in order to make themselves feel better, in order to feel better about what they're doing. It's like when you have a friend and you tell them, I'm just gonna have two glasses of wine and then you stop and they want you to keep drinking and you're like, no, no, I'm good. And they're like, please, I don't wanna drink alone. I don't wanna feel bad. I don't wanna feel this negative emotion, this negative energy of drinking by myself. I want somebody else to come with me. I so that I don't feel so bad about what I'm doing. It's just a misalignment. But this is not so much about other people. I wanna keep coming back to you. And what are you doing with this now? This is where we get to explore and look at. What would you make it mean if you didn't hit your goal?
[00:10:12] So let's say your goal for September was to lose eight pounds, two pounds per week, roughly. And let's say so far you've only lost two. We feel that disappointment or we feel like a failure, or we feel like we're never gonna get it. And I think this comes up a lot around the holidays. And even just this concept of, oh, you could actually lose weight during the holidays while still living and loving this full, vibrant, lit up life and enjoying the food and the cocktails and the wine and the parties and the traditions and all of those things. Like, you could still enjoy all of that and lose weight. I think our brain, it wants to keep us safe and it wants to go to the past and use the past against us. It wants to be like, no, no, no. Remember all those past years. Remember all those past times. Don't get your hopes up because you don't want to be disappointed if you're not £20 down in January, that would really suck. Maybe you're only going to be five pounds down. Maybe you're only going to be ten pounds. Maybe you're going to try really hard and you're not going to lose anything at all this holiday season. Don't get your hopes up. Lower the bar, lower the expectations. We don't want to feel that that would be bad. And a lot of it is not just our unwillingness to feel emotions or our discomfort with emotions. It's what we're making failure mean. It's what we're making it mean if we don't hit a certain goal, it's what we're making it mean if the scale has stayed the same for a couple of weeks.
[00:11:33] And this is where I know I bring such value in working with clients, because even though the scale is not changing at times, their body composition is changing. And I think that's what has been amazing, especially for a couple of clients. I've got one right now where the scale has stayed the same the last couple weeks, but she's losing dress sizes, she's fitting into smaller clothes. She's able to get rid of clothes that are now too big, even though the scale is not really moving. This is why we can't just make it about the scale. We can't just make it about that number. And the scale is often a lagging indicator. It is often one of the last things that's going to change. What we're seeing right now is like the scale's going to drop and then it might stabilize for a little bit as other things under the surface are shifting and changing, and then the scale is going to drop again and then more things are going to shift and change as that scale might stay the same for a few weeks and then it's going to drop. And everybody's got their own rhythm. And so I had one client a couple years ago, and she, her rhythm and pattern was to lose £10, £5, £10, £5, month to month, right? And so she could look at the months where she only lost five pounds and be like, oh, my gosh, that was terrible.
[00:12:42] I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up. How horrible. Well, then of the very next month, she lost ten pounds. That was her body's normal rhythm. That kept her losing weight in a sustainable way, that kept her losing weight without her body freaking out and thinking it's starving. It's how she was able to maintain it and keep building off of this consistent steadiness.
[00:13:03] So you may not lose all your weight at the same pace and the same rate. Most people will not like, there's going to be some ebbs and flows and we don't know the pattern until we are three or four months in. We can kind of look at weekly patterns and weekly changes, but we don't always know, Right. I had another client who she traveled across the country, went on vacation for a week, came back, and the scale stayed the same. And she was a little disappointed. She was like, man, I thought I was doing really good. I was eating really mindfully, and I was like, you know what that's okay. Don't worry about it. You maintained on vacation. That's amazing. And she was really proud of that fact that she could go on vacation for a week and not gain weight, especially being in wine country in California.
[00:13:42] And then, you know what? The next week, the scale was down five pounds. And so this is where it's like, we don't have to have this expectation that it always needs to drop five pounds in a week, but we can manage any of the disappointment and still go after our goals, still go after that vision, still go after what it is that we want to do and we want to create.
[00:14:02] And I will tell you that these two examples both happened September through December.
[00:14:08] This is what was happening over the holidays while there was travel, while there was extra candy and food and events and opportunities to eat and to drink. And it's being able to navigate and manage that, that is what's so powerful, is not just changing this now, but changing it once and for all.
[00:14:27] Not only do we see this come up with food and with weight loss, right? Of like, careful, now, we're going to the holidays. Don't get your hopes up. Lower those expectations. Maybe you should just start in January.
[00:14:37] This is actually how we slow ourselves down. It's not just in weight loss. We can do this in every area of life. We do this around school and grades. We do this around jobs and promotions or businesses. Don't get your hopes up. Manage your expectations. We don't want to feel disappointed. Don't think too good about what's about to happen.
[00:14:55] Don't feel too good.
[00:14:57] Don't think positive thoughts.
[00:14:59] That's essentially what we're telling our brain.
[00:15:01] And we can see it with dating and relationships and romantic relationships in particular.
[00:15:07] This is something that I have started to notice, and I know clients, some are dating, many are not. And there is this trade off of, like, risk, reward.
[00:15:17] This is part of what plays into this fear of disappointment is we're looking at what feels like the risk and what feels like the reward.
[00:15:24] And it feels risky in the dating scene to start liking somebody, to start developing, to allow yourself to develop feelings for someone else and know that there is a risk, knowing that you could break up, that this may not be your forever person. And there can be some heartbreak. It could trigger some abandonment wounds. It could trigger some rejection, some sadness, some loneliness.
[00:15:51] And it's that willingness to still put yourself out there.
[00:15:54] This is where you will find the right time and when you are ready to do this. And I think for many of my clients, it's like we let a lot of things simmer, right? It's like I plant a lot of seeds and then I water them and watch them grow, but they grow over the course of several months, sometimes even like a year.
[00:16:12] It might take some time for these seeds to sprout, and that's okay. But we're just starting to plant the seeds.
[00:16:18] And I've noticed for myself as I started dating again, more intentionally and talking to people and being really mindful of who I'm connecting with, who I am in conversation with, and also being quick to close out conversations or to cancel dates, or to notice when there aren't feelings. That way I can be really mindful of guarding and protecting my heart. And also knowing it feels really risky to start liking somebody.
[00:16:44] There's even a thought of, don't get your hopes up. What if he doesn't like you in the same way? What if he likes somebody better? What if you start to really like him and now he's just not that into you?
[00:16:55] My habit brain wants to keep me safe here, too. And it's this willingness to develop feelings. It's like the willingness to feel good, to let it be good and fun and flirty and exciting, and also be very tuned in to making sure it's not spiky anxiety and love bombing. And I'm very mindful of the toxic dynamics and patterns that I've been attracted to in the past and wanting to make sure that this is not that. But there's one guy right now that I'm really excited to get to know better. And it's always not wanting to rush into anything with one person and also being willing to let myself go there. Being willing to let myself develop those feelings and to develop a connection and knowing that he may not be my person. And that's okay. I can handle the heartbreak. I can handle the sadness and the rejection and loneliness and the abandonment and anything else that might get triggered if things don't work out with him. But it's a little scary. There is the thought in the back of my mind of, careful, do we want to get our hopes up here? And this is where I think about it as like wading into a pool or if you've ever been to one of the wave pools at a water park where it's like a beach and you can slowly inch yourself into the water, right? You start with your toes and then it comes to your ankles. It's like getting into the ocean. You have a nice gradual time in. That's how we want to do it. We want to let people show us who they are and we want to watch and pay attention and not excuse or minimize or justify, but we let them show us who they really are. And we're very mindful and aware of it. And there's also a time where it's. And I'm going to start trusting this person, I'm going to start trusting myself to make decisions around men. And we can apply this right back to food. I'm going to start trusting myself around food. I'm going to start trusting myself and developing a better and better relationship. And so maybe some of the things that you've taken out of the house, you're starting to incorporate back. Maybe some of the things you're starting to put more on your plan and eat intentionally.
[00:18:54] But we are working within the parameters of our nervous system.
[00:18:59] And I think that was one of the things one of my former coaches had told me was we can only move as fast as your nervous system will allow.
[00:19:06] And so there's some healing that needs to be done. But when you do some of this pivotal work, it's like the compound effect, right? It looks like maybe not a lot is changing in the beginning or might be a couple of weeks, even a couple of months. And then there's like this radical spike and these drastic changes and these things that seem to happen overnight.
[00:19:25] But it was really a slow build, a slow burn.
[00:19:30] And it's the willingness to go through and to have maybe high expectations or to have certain thoughts and the willingness to feel disappointed, the willingness to tell yourself a different story if you miss your expectation, if you miss your goal.
[00:19:46] Because missed goals, missed expectations, they create an opportunity to build and strengthen your self trust, to talk nicer to yourself, to have your own back, to learn how to evaluate and actually learn from the experience.
[00:20:00] Right? It builds your commitment and resilience, your determination.
[00:20:04] We can allow our missed goals and missed expectations to strengthen our faith, to strengthen our belief.
[00:20:11] And this is a key thing. Whether it is in food and weight loss, whether it's in relationships and dating or divorce, whether it's in your career or your business.
[00:20:21] Sometimes it's fun to just play with the thought of something new.
[00:20:26] One of the things that has come up for a couple of clients that I've offered and just started to plant seeds is what if you outearned your ex husband in the next five years?
[00:20:36] You don't have to know how, you don't have to know what the details are. And it's so fascinating to see how our brains are like. But the money doesn't add up. It doesn't make sense. If I look at this and this criterion, it's like in our brains, we start working on the how versus what if I just had this belief. What if I started to play with and ask. And this is where I will offer. You don't have to believe it a hundred percent. Right now, we just want to start playing with the thought of what if I out earn my ex in five years? Because I tell you what, I'm about to do that, and it's fricking exciting.
[00:21:10] It's so fun. Not that you have to by any means, but if that lights you up, if that gets you excited, if that motivates you, lean into that. But sometimes that's what we're doing, is we're just playing with thoughts like that. We don't have to know how, we don't have to know exactly when.
[00:21:27] But there's also that part of our brain that wants to be like, don't get your hopes up, hold back, lower those expectations.
[00:21:34] And what happens is we end up holding ourselves back. Your ex is no longer doing that to you.
[00:21:41] He never was, but now he's really not.
[00:21:44] Now it's all you. And this is the beautiful thing, is when I'm the problem, I get to be the solution. When it's my thought and my emotion or my resistance to emotions, now I get to fix it. It's not someone else or some external circumstance that I have to try to change. It's me.
[00:22:02] And that is a wonderful place to be. But we also have to be willing to talk nice to ourselves when we don't hit a goal.
[00:22:09] To be willing to hold space and love ourselves through the disappointment, through the heartbreak, through the loneliness.
[00:22:16] Last week, my sister gifted me a ticket to go see Angela Johnson. She's a comedian, and we have been following her since 2009, and we just love her. So she got me a ticket to the Grand Ole Opry in Nashville, and it ended up being a showcase event. And so I think her intention was that it would be just Angela that I would get to go see. So I'll have to schedule, hopefully her and I can do like a date together and go see her. But for now, it is. It was. But for this past weekend, I got to see a couple different artists, so I got to see Carrie Underwood, which was pretty fun and exciting. And I got to see another artist. His name's Tyler Braden, and I had actually heard one, maybe two of his songs on YouTube before. And I Liked them. But I haven't really heard much of his music. But he played a song and he told a story, and it was so moving and I'm so obsessed with it. It's called Right on Track.
[00:23:09] And he shared this story about how he released his first single in 2017.
[00:23:13] And now in 2025, he's finally releasing a full record, a full album.
[00:23:20] Eight years later.
[00:23:23] Eight years. Eight years of releasing singles and EPs and playing and touring and opening for other bands. And now in 2025, he is finally going to be headlining his own shows. He's going. He's playing with some really incredible musicians and stars in the country music world. He's playing at places like the Grand Ole Opry and the Ryman Theater. Eight years later.
[00:23:47] And this song, it's like, no matter what, you are right on track. And so I want to read you some of the lyrics here because I think it's really easy to get sucked down and to use the past against us.
[00:23:58] That's part of why your brain is like, don't get your hopes up. Remember how long we've been trying to solve this. Remember how long it's been that we've been trying to lose weight? You know how long we've been struggling with this. Don't get your hopes up. But what if you were right on track? What if you were setting yourself up perfectly to make this the year you lose weight through the holidays, to make this the year you lose £20 and next year finish losing any extra weight that you want to lose. What if this year was to set you up to have a killer 20, 26?
[00:24:30] What if this year was about priming and setting the stage?
[00:24:34] But let me read you some of these lyrics. Okay? So he says, when it's all going to hell like the train's about to crash running off the rails just keep your foot down on the gas when you find a road that you don't know, boy, just don't look back Ain't no right turn in the rear view no future in the past and right when a little bit of luck finds you right where you're at, you're right on track.
[00:25:01] And this is. This moves me to tears because there are things that we have worked for so long that it's like, then we finally achieve. And I think about my binging experience and binging and emotionally eating for 14 years and to now be on the other side of that, and it's been five, almost six years, binge free. I never thought that could have been possible. But there is this conviction and this resilience and this grit and this determination to stop using the past against myself, to stop telling myself I couldn't do it and to decide I was going to figure this out no matter what. No matter how many things I tried that didn't work, no matter how long it took me, I was going to figure it out and I was right on track and it happened exactly as it needed to.
[00:25:46] And there have been other things in my life that I've had to work extremely hard for. And there are times when I think about my life right now and being 40 and a single mom, divorced for the second time and I'm like, oh shit, this is not where I thought I was gonna be. And that's okay because I am right on track.
[00:26:04] I am exactly where I need to be. And I love this line of ain't no right turn in the rear view, no future in the past.
[00:26:12] We have got to stop looking backwards and start looking to the future and start deciding that things are going to be different now. Because I promise you, even if you start this year and it feels a little wobbly as you go through the holidays, it's going to set you up for an even better summer next year, an even better holiday season next year. It's going to set you up to be even more successful because we're going to keep building and keep growing and keep learning and keep getting better and better.
[00:26:38] But you are right on track and your job is to increase your willingness to believe in yourself.
[00:26:46] And this requires a willingness to feel.
[00:26:50] That's all it is. The way that we combat don't get your hopes up. The way that we combat self sabotage and other sabotaging thoughts like this is the willingness to feel disappointment, the willingness to feel heartbroken, the willingness to feel any emotion that comes up and trust and know that it is just a vibration in your body. It's not going to hurt you, it's not going to kill you.
[00:27:16] It only has power because we've given it power, because we have let it keep power over us in the past.
[00:27:22] But this is the number one reason why you won't believe in yourself. It's because you aren't willing to feel certain emotions if things don't work out in the way you want them to or as fast as you want them to.
[00:27:34] It's because you don't see the how. And so you don't want to believe.
[00:27:39] Rather than indulging in a fun make believe what if without having to know the how, without having to know the Details.
[00:27:47] But that's how we combat the self sabotage.
[00:27:51] That's how we break free from this stuckness. That's how we get unstuck.
[00:27:56] We start to cultivate this willingness to believe in ourselves.
[00:28:00] Willingness to hold space for all the emotions, willingness to feel anything.
[00:28:07] Because when we expand our capacity to feel negative emotions, we also now expand our capacity to feel positive emotions and create safety around the positive emotions as well.
[00:28:20] To not be thinking about worst case scenarios all the time. To not go into dating a new person thinking he's probably gonna break up with me, he probably doesn't like me that much, this is gonna end, this is gonna be terrible. And you create this self fulfilling prophecy to feel good about your progress and your success around weight loss and emotional eating. And instead of thinking about it as when am I gonna fall off the rails, this won't last. Rather than creating this negative spiral, you trust yourself and you learn to trust yourself.
[00:28:47] Trust yourself in dating and mental trust yourself in relationships and with food and in your career to trust yourself to handle and manage any emotion that comes up.
[00:29:00] But if I leave you with nothing else, I want you to know you are right on track.
[00:29:04] And sometimes we need to have tried things in the past that haven't worked or haven't worked the way that we wanted to because it has set the stage and it has primed us now for things to work.
[00:29:15] And so we don't want to look at the past and feel like a failure.
[00:29:19] You get to decide the meaning of it.
[00:29:21] You get to look for the optimal angle.
[00:29:24] And that's what I want to help you do. I'm going to help you to believe in yourself. I'm going to help you to feel all the things. I'm going to help you to catch all of these subtle little thoughts that hold you back and keep you stuck and sabotage your progress. And I'm going to help you break free. I'm going to help you step into that belief that you are right on track, you are right where you need to be.
[00:29:45] And let's go after those big, scary, audacious fucking goals.
[00:29:50] Let's go out there and blow your mind the rest of this year and all of next year.
[00:29:56] I'm going to help you create a life that you don't need. An escape from. A body that you can actually love and maintain habits that feel so good that light you up to create an eating plan that you don't need a break from. I'm going to teach you how to do counterintuitive things like committing to A goal, yet also staying detached from it. Some like things that just break our brain. Enjoying the holidays and the food and the parties and the fun and the connection and the people and still losing weight. No missing out, no cheating required, just a willingness to have your own back.
[00:30:30] If you want some help with this, I would love to chat. You can schedule your free
[email protected] forward slash schedule. I'll drop a link in the description, but find a day and time on my calendar and let's spend some time really going over what's actually holding you back and why it feels so hard to believe and why it feels so hard to feel. Because that's all it is.
[00:30:53] The reason you can't believe in yourself, the reason you're choosing not to believe in yourself is simply an inability or an unwillingness to feel certain emotions.
[00:31:04] And we can talk about that. No shame, no judgment. Let's get real curious as to why and what's going on.
[00:31:12] And I hope that you join me for the upcoming workshop next Saturday, the 27th of September at noon Central. And we're gonna dive into the three myths around holiday weight loss and how to break free. Because I promise it is much easier than you think.
[00:31:29] I want to start to plant that seed of what if the holidays was a big best time to lose weight and end emotional eating and break your overeating and binge eating habit.
[00:31:39] Let those thoughts simmer, play with them, lean into them and just start to play with what if. Jillian is right here.
[00:31:46] You don't have to believe a hundred percent just yet. But join me on Saturday and I'm going to make a pretty good argument, a pretty good case as to how you can believe this. And you can do this too.
[00:31:58] All right, y' all have a fabulous weekend. I will talk with you next week. Next week. Here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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