Episode Transcript
[00:00:02] Ready to lose 40 plus pounds without giving up happy hours, weekend brunches, or date nights. Then it's time to uncover the hidden link between binge eating and toxic relationships. And finally break free from both. Welcome to the Hungry for Love podcast with Jillian Scott. Y' all ready? Let's go.
[00:00:24] Hey. Hey. Welcome back.
[00:00:26] All right, so I just got back from a little beach vacation that was so nice and relaxing, and I went with some friends, and my son stayed with his dad. So it was a really great escape just to get away. And I am planning to take my little guy to Hawaii next year. We're gonna go visit my dad probably February, March timeframe. We're still ironing out the details there. But I knew, okay, we've got a big, fun family beach event coming up in the future. But I wanted something that could just take me away for a few days. And so we went down to Cape Sandblast, Florida, and just had a wonderful time. It took seven hours to drive there, seven hours to drive back. So it's pretty much your whole day. You've got a travel day on either end. And then there were three full days there at the beach. And as I was there, I started thinking about how this is what I teach, is that your weight loss process, your weight maintenance process can go with you wherever you go. You take it with you on vacation. You take it with you through the holidays. You take it with you to special occasions on the weekends. Whether it's a work trip or a fun personal trip or a trip with kids or a trip without. It's like, it does not matter. You take the these principles in this philosophy because it is so simple, and it now becomes a lifestyle. And that's the idea. It has to start simple, easy, doable.
[00:01:50] It meets your life.
[00:01:53] It meets you and your life right where you're at today.
[00:01:56] So that way, it is this easy transition. Because a lot of times I think what holds us back is we don't want to miss out. I think we have a lot of fomo, especially when we're on vacation, especially when we have things like holidays or special events, special occasions. And really, we make it over complicated. We make it a lot harder on ourselves than it needs to be. And so I was thinking about it. I wrote an email and just shared some of my ideas and little behind the scenes of here's how I plan. And I gave them even the breakdown of, okay, here's what I planned. Here's what I actually ate and drank, and there really wasn't much difference. The snack was fresh fruit and then chips and salsa. And I did watermelon, and instead of the chips and salsa, I did pop chips. So there were some things that were more of an equal swap. But really, I stuck to my plan really well, and it wasn't hard. I didn't feel restricted. I planned to eat pizza that day. Like, that was a pizza day. And then even on one of the days, I didn't necessarily plan the food, but I knew, okay, we're gonna go out to lunch. We'll probably do more of a light dinner snack in the evening. We planned to have dessert that night, really just being intentional with it. And so when we went out, I really was in the mood for a hamburger. So I was like, sweet, I'm gonna order a burger. I'm only gonna eat half. I ordered a side salad with it and then some broccoli, because I knew I was gonna eat the salad there and then probably a little bit of the broccoli, but the broccoli, I would save more for the following day and have for another meal. It's thinking about it ahead of time to where it's so simple to get in vegetables, to get in enough water, to be mindful of my drinking and any alcohol. And I know for me, I do better if I am not day drinking. If I'm day drinking, I'm tired, I'm sleepy. I just. I don't love it if I'm being really honest. And so I was drinking Gatorade and propel and regular water and just having some other things. And. And then I didn't have any alcohol until about 5pm and so for me, that's what I like. That's how I prefer to do it. But this is not about needing to do things just like me. I'm just sharing how it just fits naturally and effortlessly into my life, into my vacation, because this is what I would do at home. This becomes the issue is that the diets that we typically try to do at home are not the diets that we want to do when we're going out to eat, because we have thoughts like, I don't want to miss out. I want to try the new dessert. I'm in Florida. I want some key lime pie. I don't get a craving for that often, but especially when it's a homemade mom and pop type of shop. That's what I want. I want to try the local stuff.
[00:04:27] And it's just about being really intentional with it. And so I. I also ran this as an experiment. So when I left I weighed myself and then when I came back I weighed myself and even later in the day weighing myself, at the end of the day I still was half a pound down from when I left. So I ended up, it was probably about £1 difference. But you can easily maintain your weight, you can easily lose weight while on vacation. And I realized as I was looking back at past episode outlines, I don't think I've actually talked about vacation weight loss. I talk about it a lot with clients. I help them create plans and systems and processes. I even have a workshop that walks them specifically through this because so much of it is mindset. It's really understanding what are our permission giving thoughts and excuses. And typically it's this overarching thought of I'm on vacation, I don't want to have to stress, I don't want to have to worry, but we just throw everything out the window. I may have shared this before, but I was talking with a friend at the gym and he was telling me how he went on a trip with his wife. His wife was working, but he took time off from the gym. And he was like, yeah, it was just basically a free for all. And I think that's where we get caught. We get stuck in these all or nothings of it's like I'm either all in doing my diet, perfectly restricting, saying no, but because we're trying to say no to the food, we have to say no to the lifestyle, we have to say no to events and things that we want to do. And so when we go on vacation, we don't want to have to keep saying no. We want to be able to say yes, we want to be able to enjoy ourselves. And when it's something where it's oh, I'm only going to get this once a year, I might never get this again in my life. Right? We have all of these stories that create food scarcity, that have us overeating, eating when we're not hungry, eating to self soothe or eating because we're happy and we're having a good time and we're just enjoying ourselves.
[00:06:16] This is what we want to shift. And this has really been the premise is what I teach you to do regularly in your day to day life at home is what you can take with you no matter where you are. And so I realized there's been some podcasts around holidays and holiday weight loss, managing things around the holidays and stress eating, emotional eating, things like that. But I don't think I've done a podcast on vacations and how do we make it simple and doable and sustainable? And I think part of it is because the intention is you learn how to do this anywhere and you just. It becomes a part of who you are. Right? It's. So when I was writing this email and I was explaining, okay, I've got my simple plan, because I was drafting it in the car while we were driving to, I think we were going to get groceries or something, we're going to pick up some food. And so I was just like, oh, yeah, let me just tell them what I've been doing, what my plan is for the day. And then it was also, I'm going to be mindful of, am I really hungry? Have I had enough?
[00:07:14] I'm going to be intentional with planning my sweets, planning my food. Is it an 8 out of 10 or better, making sure I'm drinking enough water, staying hydrated, and really, that is, that's the main goal. Those are the biggest things. And so often of what gets us off track on vacation is this fear that we're going to miss out, that we're going to miss out on the good times if we're not drinking on the beach, that we're going to miss out on the good times if we're not eating what everybody else is eating.
[00:07:41] And because there can be so much mind drama and this kind of obsession with food and all of the food noise that comes with it and the diet rules and what we should and shouldn't be eating and what's healthy and what's good for us and bad for us and all these things. It's like we get so our brain just gets so packed with all of this mind drama that we want to be able to let it go. We want to be able to relax, we want to unwind. We don't just want to relax from maybe your job or day to day life. It's like, we want to relax, we want a break from the diet. And so often that that's the problem.
[00:08:18] I want to help you create a weight loss plan that you don't need a break from. Right? I want to help you create a life that you don't need an escape from. And when you don't need the escape in food, it becomes a lot easier to say no. It becomes a lot easier to actually follow your hunger cues, to actually tune into your body and to recognize, am I really hungry or am I eating preemptively for fear that I'm going to be hungry?
[00:08:45] And I'm gonna do an upcoming podcast. I've Got several here in the queue. But in later, in August, I'm gonna do a 2.0 version of diet trauma, because I have. I know I've touched on this in the past, but it was a while ago, it was probably a couple years ago now, where I just brought up this concept of diet trauma. And I think there's a lot more to it than I realized back then.
[00:09:09] And now I see it through this new lens. And I could definitely see it from through my own lens of how I was experiencing it.
[00:09:15] And the more that I talk to people, I've talked with hundreds and hundreds of people now to where I know that we all have such similar experiences.
[00:09:25] Really. My experience around vacations and weight loss often are that I will lose weight on vacation not because I'm trying hard, not because I'm bringing food rules into it, but because often I'm moving my body more. There's more exploring of cities and walking or biking or there's more activity.
[00:09:45] I still will typically get in a walk early in the morning. I like to do that. Sometimes if I'm in more of a city, I will go try a new gym or I'll try a new fitness class or a dance class, or I might be with other friends or family members and I'm doing something with them.
[00:09:59] So it's like a fun community thing. And then where was I going with this? I totally just lost my train of thought.
[00:10:08] Typically I'll lose weight because often we're eating out dinner. I can cut in half, save leftovers, eat for lunch the next day, maybe have a little snack, and then I'm eating dinner again. I'm mindful to eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm satisfied. I'm mindful to save room for dessert if I want it, I plan it. I'm mindful to plan out my drinks because I also know that I'm not going to enjoy the beach, I am not going to enjoy myself. If I am binge drinking one day and then I feel really hungover the next day, that sounds terrible. And so part of it is I put these parameters on myself to where I know I'm going to have the best experience because I am moving more often. There are less snacks, there's less treats. There's not ice cream because it's going to melt. And sometimes I'm at an Airbnb, but sometimes I'm in a hotel where I can't really keep ice cream or ice cream bars. I don't have the same types of things on Hand or I didn't bring protein bars with me on this trip. So there are little things where it's not a huge shift or a big change. But I've just noticed, oh, I can go on vacation and lose weight and still love my life, still really enjoy it, still eat out every single day. But I am so much more aware of, yes, the food tastes good and I'm going to eat food that I enjoy, but my joy and pleasure and the vacation is not wrapped around food. Food is not the primary source of my joy, and it's not the highlight of my trip. And so with this patch past beach trip, I had crab legs one day, did a burger, did pizza. I did a salad. I did veggies. I did some leftovers one day. But I had a big, full, fun food experience. But the highlight of my trip was sitting on the beach and reading a book. It was renting a pontoon boat and just cruising around in the bay and then randomly finding two schools of dolphins. And it was so cool. Like, they got so close to us.
[00:12:08] And then with one of them, it was a mama and a baby, and it was just so cute. And I think one of them had a couple babies and there were little dolphins just jumping out of the water. And it was such a neat experience. I just had so much fun, and it was relaxing and I could unwind. And there were moments when I felt inspired, but there was a lot of permission to not work. I didn't have to do anything. It was, oh, let me write this because I'm feeling inspired. Let me do this because it fits and it just. It comes more naturally.
[00:12:40] And so I just. I was just enjoying myself. And yes, I had some great food. And yes, I had this amazing key lime pie. And we also got banana cream pie, which I'm not even a huge fan of that dessert. And it was fantastic. It was so good. And. And I also said no to the ice cream one time. I also said no to the cheesecake with blueberries. I also was mindful of, okay, I don't need every single dessert ever. And even when the dessert seemed really good, I also knew, oh, actually, I'm really satisfied with dinner. I don't need more. I'm good. Or even with drinks, I can have one cocktail and not need another, or I can have one thing and maybe I don't love it. And I'm like, no, you know what? I'm okay. I can have another drink when I get back to the house. It's not needing stuff in the moment and not Feeling pressured and people around me were drinking. And I'm okay not drinking alcohol. It's just become more of who I am. And this is what you can do too.
[00:13:34] You don't have to feel deprived. You don't have to feel restricted. It does not take a lot of time. It does not take a lot of energy. In fact, I spent so little mental bandwidth on this. And in the past, my days, no matter what I was doing, my days were so consumed with food and what were we eating and where were we going? And it was so nice to be on this trip and to be like, oh, I don't care where we go. I am happy wherever you want to go. I don't care where the group wants to go. I can find something to eat anywhere, literally anywhere, and it doesn't matter. And there might be times when I'm more in the mood for one thing over another, but it's so different. It's so calm, it's so peaceful. I'm so relaxed.
[00:14:15] And it was just. It was such a great experience.
[00:14:18] And this was a really great vacation.
[00:14:21] And it did have me missing my son too. Like, there was enough downtime to where I was missing him a little bit. And then also having some experiences where I was like, oh, I really wish Caleb was here. I really wish Caleb got to see these dolphins with me. That would have been really fun. But I know that I'm going to have a lot of other great experiences with him later. And I have traveled a little bit on my own, but nothing seems to have been quite this relaxing. When I traveled before, I was hiking and I was going to a concert and there were these other things that were planned. I'm blanking right now, but there was this full itinerary of things. And the other thing with this trip too, which was cool, is like, the last four times prior to this trip that I've been to the beach have been really emotionally rough trips. There was divorce, there was breakups. One of them was really the beginning of the end of my marriage. Like the last four I of five beach trips, the prior four were really rough. This was the first beach trip I've had since 2021. The beach trip in 2021 was not bad. Caleb was really little, and so I think I was stressing about him not getting sunburned and getting enough sleep. And there were little stressors. But overall things were fine in 2021. But since then, I have not had a really relaxing, enjoyable, great beach trip. And that's okay. But this really was so Good. This was so good for me, like mind, body, soul wise. And so it was a relatively short trip, but it was enough to just be able to relax and unwind and unplug for a bit to really feel like I could take a vacation. And also knowing that when you travel with kids, especially young kids, it's not necessarily a vacation, it's a trip.
[00:16:01] It is travel, but it's not always this fun, relaxing thing because you're also primed and wired to make sure you keep your little children alive. You've got these little humans that are dependent on you. So while, yes, it's been fun and I've been able to take him on some trips. We did North Carolina and South Carolina in 2023. But even that trip, I had just filed divorce paperwork and things were still very up in the air. And so it wasn't that it was bad, but it still had some sadness. There was still some grief there that I was working through. And yeah, this was just so good. And this is your permission to let it be easy. And if you feel like it's hard to lose weight, if you feel like you don't have a process that takes you from day to day life into holidays, into special events, into vacations, into weekends, into these special times, and you don't feel like you've got a process that allows you to actually lose weight, to be able to maintain it, to keep it off, to feel good about it, and to really love your life and to be able to put the focus on enjoying your life. This is where I can help you. And this is my jam.
[00:17:04] And this is so great too because you being able to start now, starting in August is such a great time of year because you get in a couple of months of learning how to figure it out, figuring out weekdays, figuring out weekends, school, the back to school season with your job, and then we enter the holidays. And the holidays are one of the biggest times where we have a big fear of missing out. And we have a lot of excuses and justifications to eat off, plan to eat when we're not hungry. To think that I don't want to, I don't want life to suck, so I'm just gonna throw everything out the window. And we, this is, it's a time when we tend to go off the rails more or we just feel like, ah, I don't wanna have to stress, I don't have to worry about food and dieting. And so we don't put any intention towards it. And I wanna show you how you can make this really simple, really doable, really effortless. That way, without even trying, you can go on vacation and come home and have lost weight. Okay, this is possible. This is possible for you, too. So if you're listening and you would like some help with this, the next best step is to schedule a free consultation on the call. We're going to talk more about where you are right now, where you want to be, and I'm going to help you bridge the gap so that you can also see not just where you're getting stuck and the real obstacles that you need to overcome, but what is the path forward. How do you get where you want to go in a simple, clear manner?
[00:18:32] This is the thing is you're going to learn this now and you will have this for years to come. I really started doing this work in 2019, 2020, and now it's just something that I take with me. I can't tell you how many thousands of dollars I've probably saved every year by not overeating, not emotionally eating, not saying, eff it, not saying, screw it, I've blown it. I'll start over again Monday, or I'll start over after the holidays, after this travel, whatever it is. There's so much more mental bandwidth and energy that I have that can go to other things, aside from food, aside from what I can and can't eat, aside from exercise and calories and points and all of the diet trauma. I've healed that.
[00:19:14] And now I have this for decades to come.
[00:19:19] And so this is what I really tell people and I tell clients when they come work with me, is we're gonna be intentional and focused right now, but you are going to build these habits and they are never gonna leave you. You are going to have this for the rest of your life.
[00:19:32] And I'm going to help you create a life that you don't need, an escape from. A life where you wake up in the morning and you feel unstoppable. A life where Monday morning you wake up early because you are just so lit up and excited about your day and about your week. And I can help you create this, too. I hope you all have a fabulous day. I would love to hear your vacation stories and what you have been doing, what you've been up to. If you have more vacations planned. So come chat with me. You can find me on Facebook. I'm Jillian Scott. You can also find me on Instagram and my handle is Jillian Amadea. So I use my middle name there. But yes, come chat, come share all the things with me. All right, here's to creating the life and body you crave.
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